Shashasha Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Just curious - would you guys date someone who is unwilling to give away her virginity but does everything else except for penetration? You are also sexually active!
ktya Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 No I've been with a couple girls like that and respected their choice, some of them were pretty hot. One was Sikh and said it was an important religious thing. Both of them just gave it up for the next guy after me and they werent even in a relationship with him and broke it off with me. So if it's completely off the table, no I would walk away and look for something else. I wouldnt mind waiting a bit for the right moment and time, but if it's just right off the table I'd decline. Too volatile of a situation and I'd feel like an idiot for waiting around. 1
Author Shashasha Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 No I've been with a couple girls like that and respected their choice, some of them were pretty hot. One was Sikh and said it was an important religious thing. Both of them just gave it up for the next guy after me and they werent even in a relationship with him and broke it off with me. So if it's completely off the table, no I would walk away and look for something else. I wouldnt mind waiting a bit for the right moment and time, but if it's just right off the table I'd decline. Too volatile of a situation and I'd feel like an idiot for waiting around. Urgh! That sounds ****ty. Why wouldn't you want to date a virgin though? Because you need sex?
MalachiX Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Probably not. I suppose if I was in love with her and she seemed to be "the one" then I'd hold out but that's a tall order (as i've never met "the one"). If your curious why, it's because it sounds like she's a slave to some tradition that doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me. If we can do "everything else" then I'd really need a logical explanation as to why we can't have sex? Honestly, there's nothing sillier than all the women I've known who actually are willing to do anal but won't have plain old sex because they want to be "pure." If she can do everything else but not intercourse than it sounds like she's trying to find a loophole in a religion that she really doesn't believe in but is following out of societal pressure. That's hard for me to respect. Cultural stigmas about premarital sex our outdated and they wont' go away until people start questioning them. You don't have to jump into bed with everyone you meet but you also don't have to stop yourself from sexual exploration just because your parents are out of touch. 7
Author Shashasha Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 Probably not. I suppose if I was in love with her and she seemed to be "the one" then I'd hold out but that's a tall order (as i've never met "the one"). If your curious why, it's because it sounds like she's a slave to some tradition that doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me. If we can do "everything else" then I'd really need a logical explanation as to why we can't have sex? Honestly, there's nothing sillier than all the women I've known who actually are willing to do anal but won't have plain old sex because they want to be "pure." If she can do everything else but not intercourse than it sounds like she's trying to find a loophole in a religion that she really doesn't believe in but is following out of societal pressure. That's hard for me to respect. Cultural stigmas about premarital sex our outdated and they wont' go away until people start questioning them. You don't have to jump into bed with everyone you meet but you also don't have to stop yourself from sexual exploration just because your parents are out of touch. Interesting..you do have a point! (Y)
d0nnivain Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 You don't have to wear your virginity on your sleeve like some sort of scarlet V. You also don't have to sleep with every man who takes you to dinner. It's OK to wait until you are in a committed loving relationship. 2
PegNosePete Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 No. Dating is the test-drive for marriage. I am not going to buy a car without taking it for a spin around the block first. 2
rocketman122 Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Just curious - would you guys date someone who is unwilling to give away her virginity but does everything else except for penetration? You are also sexually active! Maybe. it depends if I see it going further. if shes holding out and I wont get anywhere with her then no. depends how she is with the "everything else" because I dont like to teach and train. and I dont like women who "eww" to everything. if I came to lick her ass and she said eww, then that would be it. 3
felicity1 Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 if I came to lick her ass and she said eww, then that would be it. hahahahahahahah!!! 3
felicity1 Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Contraceptive medication can do wierd things to a women's body. Among many side effects it can ironically reduce libido and I have heard there are links with cancer eg breast cancer, due to the unnatural suppression of certain hormones. Although many women take it, they are really risking their health. Better to be safer than sorry and look after your body. Wait for the right man. 2
ktya Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Urgh! That sounds ****ty. Why wouldn't you want to date a virgin though? Because you need sex? Yes. I have done almost every other sexual act that's not intercourse that is hetero, and while all that stuff is fun and feels good there is just nothing like straight up making love the normal way. 1
Untouchable_Fire Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Just curious - would you guys date someone who is unwilling to give away her virginity but does everything else except for penetration? You are also sexually active! Yes, but I would keep a very strong watch on the woman's personality. Some develop into cheaters because of a lack of experience, while some are faithful forever. 2
Author Shashasha Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 You don't have to wear your virginity on your sleeve like some sort of scarlet V. You also don't have to sleep with every man who takes you to dinner. It's OK to wait until you are in a committed loving relationship. Definitely. The guy I am seeing looks like he just wants to have fun and he has sex with different girls every week!!!
Author Shashasha Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 No. Dating is the test-drive for marriage. I am not going to buy a car without taking it for a spin around the block first. Hmm...makes sense!
Author Shashasha Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 Maybe. it depends if I see it going further. if shes holding out and I wont get anywhere with her then no. depends how she is with the "everything else" because I dont like to teach and train. and I dont like women who "eww" to everything. if I came to lick her ass and she said eww, then that would be it. Oh, that would be weird! I love everything else and I am still wondering whether my date will contact me again! He seemed very disappointed when I said I was a 'virgin' and he said he could never date a virgin.
Author Shashasha Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 Yes. I have done almost every other sexual act that's not intercourse that is hetero, and while all that stuff is fun and feels good there is just nothing like straight up making love the normal way. Hmm...I can see where you are coming from. Urgh - very tempted to have sex!
Author Shashasha Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 Yes, but I would keep a very strong watch on the woman's personality. Some develop into cheaters because of a lack of experience, while some are faithful forever. Hmm...never heard of that before. Interesting...
MalachiX Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Definitely. The guy I am seeing looks like he just wants to have fun and he has sex with different girls every week!!! You know...there is a middle ground. Losing your virginity doesn't mean you have to bang every guy who's half interested and just wants to use you for sex. It's perfectly normal to wait until you trust someone to sleep with them and to only sleep with people who you know aren't banging anyone else. I'm not saying you HAVE to do this but it seems odd that you're going from one extreme to the other. Any guy who's sleeping with a different girl every week is just going to use you. You can "use" him too if that's what you want but it seems rather odd for you to go from knowing so little about sex to deciding you want a purely sexual relationship with someone you barely know and who has no desire to be faithful.
Author Shashasha Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 You know...there is a middle ground. Losing your virginity doesn't mean you have to bang every guy who's half interested and just wants to use you for sex. It's perfectly normal to wait until you trust someone to sleep with them and to only sleep with people who you know aren't banging anyone else. I'm not saying you HAVE to do this but it seems odd that you're going from one extreme to the other. Any guy who's sleeping with a different girl every week is just going to use you. You can "use" him too if that's what you want but it seems rather odd for you to go from knowing so little about sex to deciding you want a purely sexual relationship with someone you barely know and who has no desire to be faithful. Haha, I wouldn't say I know nothing about sex! I know myself sexually very well But yeah, he does come across as a aplayer - I don't know why I am attracted to him :S
MalachiX Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Haha, I wouldn't say I know nothing about sex! I know myself sexually very well But yeah, he does come across as a aplayer - I don't know why I am attracted to him :S I didn't say you knew nothing. I said you knew little. You really can't know much about yourself sexually until you've had some sexual relationships (and more than just 3rd base) As for why you're attracted to him, it may well be BECAUSE he's a player. For whatever reason, a lot of studies show that a plurality of women find a series of somewhat "negative" characteristics called the "dark triad" very attractive. I think usually these traits are attractive because people with them tend to seem confident and assertive (which everyone finds attractive). Unfortunately, these "bad boy" characteristics also seem to go hand in hand with guys who are manipulative and prone to use women. That's fine if that's what you want. It's just a shame that I hear so many women saying, "most men are just trying to use you!" and then continually go after men who do just that. Of course, if you want to be used and want to do some using of your own, that's totally up to you. I just would recommend against it until you know your sexual side a little better. 3
Author Shashasha Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 I didn't say you knew nothing. I said you knew little. You really can't know much about yourself sexually until you've had some sexual relationships (and more than just 3rd base) As for why you're attracted to him, it may well be BECAUSE he's a player. For whatever reason, a lot of studies show that a plurality of women find a series of somewhat "negative" characteristics called the "dark triad" very attractive. I think usually these traits are attractive because people with them tend to seem confident and assertive (which everyone finds attractive). Unfortunately, these "bad boy" characteristics also seem to go hand in hand with guys who are manipulative and prone to use women. That's fine if that's what you want. It's just a shame that I hear so many women saying, "most men are just trying to use you!" and then continually go after men who do just that. Of course, if you want to be used and want to do some using of your own, that's totally up to you. I just would recommend against it until you know your sexual side a little better. Yeah, I agree. I should probably just take a step back and hope he never calls again! thank you so much And yes, I want my first 'time' to be special!
BillJJ Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 I would if I was single. My first girlfriend wanted us to save ourselves for marriage but she passed away when she was 17 and even though we never had sex it doesn't bother me now because we loved each other. 3
Author Shashasha Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 I would if I was single. My first girlfriend wanted us to save ourselves for marriage but she passed away when she was 17 and even though we never had sex it doesn't bother me now because we loved each other. I see. Awh, that's sweet
FrankieFrank Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Just curious - would you guys date someone who is unwilling to give away her virginity but does everything else except for penetration? You are also sexually active! That's quite a laughable definition of virginity. These women are obviously sexually active, like you even pointed out yourself. If they prided themselves on being virgins, while being sexually active, I wouldn't want to have anything to do with them - as I think it's pretty asinine point of view they have.
d0nnivain Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Shashasha You are attracted to this player because players give good date. They are romantic, they make you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. It's like spinning out of control but it's all an illusion. When you know that & can steal your heart against it, it can be fun. When you don't have the experience or ability to protect yourself you get hurt. Your head seems to understand what you are getting into. Your heart & the rest of your body have no idea. They just want what they want & this isn't going to turn out well. Be careful. 1
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