Winter blue Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Bumping into my ex last weekend and here is my other post about it: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/448961-run-into-ex-today-really-coincidence [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]My ex wrote me an email today after our Sunday run ins after4.5 months NC. Just like everybody else on here says, they always come backwhen you have moved on it seems.[/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]I went out for lunch with my new potential date, and found anemail from the ex sitting in my work email inbox on my return, here is heremail:[/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] Hi Winter blue It was tense on Sunday so I better pre-empt this and suggestcoffee soon or Hobbit (tonight?, not much conversation required. Peter andTolkien have lots to say) Perhaps the Christmas festive season is getting to me. Anyway,if I don’t see you.. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. Happy Birthday too!Best wishes for the New Year ahead. Cheers ex [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Calibri][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]What’s wrong with these exes really? My birthday is coming upsoon and I already knew she will be sending some sort of breadcrumbs. So she thinksit's okay for me to hang out with her again after four months of not talking?!Seriously! I wonder what her ex (whom she left me for) would feel if he knows thatshe asked me out for coffee/movie. [/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]What will you do LSers if this were you? [/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT]
Author Winter blue Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 Bumping into my ex last weekend and here is my other post about it: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/448961-run-into-ex-today-really-coincidence My ex wrote me an email today after our Sunday run ins after 4.5 months NC. Just like everybody else on here says, they always come back when you have moved on it seems. I went out for lunch with my new potential date, and found an email from the ex sitting in my work email inbox on my return, here is her email: Hi Winter blue It was tense on Sunday so I better pre-empt this and suggest coffee soon or Hobbit (tonight?, not much conversation required. Peter and Tolkien have lots to say) Perhaps the Christmas festive season is getting to me. Anyway, if I don’t see you.. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. Happy Birthday too! Best wishes for the New Year ahead. Cheers, ex What’s wrong with these exes really? My birthday is coming up soon and I already knew she will be sending some sort of breadcrumbs. So she thinks I should be just okay to hang out with her again after four months of not talking?! Seriously! I wonder what her ex (whom she left me for) feels if he knows that she asking me out for coffee/movie. What will you do LSers if this were you?
Author Winter blue Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 Your ex wants to hang out and do something that doesn't require a lot of talking? That sounds awkward... I know, right? I don't understand what she is thinking. I certainly cannot sit in the cinema with her again anytime soon. Perhaps she thinks we could go back to where we were before, just like nothing happended in between?! I'm lost:o
rec88 Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 I'm more suspicious of her acting like everything's normal between you after a breakup and 4.5 months not speaking. Maybe she doesn't want to be honest about the situation, but that doesn't mean you have to follow suit. You're not friends, don't act like it.
Poppyolive Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 You my dear are winning!!! Go you!!....oh yah and ignore it....its a sad half ass attempt to reconnect. "Wanna coffee or movie, if not all the best" just trying to reel you in....totally lame! GO YOU! 1
Author Winter blue Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 I'm more suspicious of her acting like everything's normal between you after a breakup and 4.5 months not speaking. Maybe she doesn't want to be honest about the situation, but that doesn't mean you have to follow suit. You're not friends, don't act like it. Same here. As far as I know, she is still with the ex who she left me for. It's not making sense why she would want to go watch movie with me while she is still with someone. It makes me a little sad too to see that she is still acting the same way like four five months ago, when she was sending me mixed signals while she was in another relationship. It appears she has not changed even after this much time passed by, sigh. I honestly do not want to be involved with her again if she is still with the same old ex. There was a lot of drama at that time as one could imagine. After our breakup I thought I was probably just a rebound to her and I really was hurt and willing to let it go now, but why, why would she come back to me now and pretend like we are still okay. I told her clearly on the day of BU, that if she goes back to the ex, we are done. In your opinion, should I reply at all? if yes, what should I say to her?
hermitinator Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 if she goes back to the ex, we are done. In your opinion, should I reply at all? if yes, what should I say to her? You just answered your own question: "if she goes back to the ex, we are done". Stop feeding yourself hope. Possibly by you moving on, she will grow up a little.
Author Winter blue Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 You just answered your own question: "if she goes back to the ex, we are done". Stop feeding yourself hope. Possibly by you moving on, she will grow up a little. Don't get me wrong, the reason I ask here is not because I want her back. I don't anymore. I already figure that out a while ago that she is not right for me, and I have started dating someone new lately. The reason I'm asking is just, I don't want to be seen as rude by ignoring her, she was a close friend before and once the closest person in my life. It's such a deliemma to be honest when the dumper reaches out.. I'm thinking of simply replying with a thanks you too and I don't think it's a good idea to catch up because we're not together anymore type message. thoughts?
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