Stevew311 Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 whats happenin' ya'll? I have a dilema. there is a girl i know, she is great. Smart, Funny, cute, down to earth...I could go on. We have been friends for a while now. She had a boyfriend for a while and is now single, and has been for a few weeks now. I want to tell her how i feel about her, But i can't. She is a great friend...But unfortunately, Im not content with just a friendship. Shes everything I have ever wanted in a woman. including a great friend. Which i think is the basis for an excellent relationship. I want to tell her how i feel but i can't muster the courage to do so. Im not that great with the ladies. i have never had a serious relationship. I havent dated anyone in about 2 years. I'm always the "good friend" I hate that...but oh well eh? All my friends just say tell her, But im not sure what the consequences of my actions will be. and the last thing i want to do is make her feel uncomfortable. we talk almost everyday. as of late xhe has been calling and we end up at her place watching a movie and hanging out but never cuddling or anything... nothing like that. we sit on the same couch, and I cant help but look at her every 10 mins thorugh the movie and smile. I just want to grab her and hold her and watch the movie. I guess I got it really bad. But man, I can't help it. she makes me want to be a better man. what should I do? Just tell her?
dyermaker Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 and the last thing i want to do is make her feel uncomfortable. Naw, the last thing you want to do is be in the same position you are for a longer period of time. You can't really be a good friend if you're secretly harboring amorous intentions. she makes me want to be a better man. what should I do? Just tell her? Yeah, but don't tell her that. Chances are she's seen As Good As It Gets. You should tell her in normal, nondramatic terms that you're into her and want something more than a friendship. It's worth the risk. It's worth the risk.
NiCoLe20 Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 yea i think you should tell her what u got to lose? you never know - she could feel the same about you. i would write her a letter and next time you guys chill, give it to her and say to her- you know i have something i want you to read...and say in the letter, the reason you wrote it was b/c you didnt want to leave anything out and its easier to write out your feelings than to say them in person...and how your nervous.. just be honest and say you have feelings for her and see what she says... she might ignore you for a few days b/c she wont know what to say back but hey give it a shot
iceisles Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 Yeah, just tell her. I decided to tell the girl I like the same thing. I believe you should be open with your feelings whenever possible. There is certainly no harm in letting her know the truth. I also think that letter is a good idea, especially if you explain that you didn't want to leave anything out. You never know - she could be sitting there wondering how you feel about her, and this will answer that question. There are many times in life where the reward is worth the risk, and this is definitely one of them. Go for it and keep us updated!
ktsweets Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 Hmmmm... well, she might already know... I can usually pick up on whether a guy likes me or not. I know you've been good friends for a while, but I've had (and still have) some guy friends that I know like me, they just never say anything to me about it.... You need to start being more assertive. If you know what you want, then go for it - girls LOVE that!! Honestly, if some of those guys friends of mine had come up to me and been like "hey i think you're great and would love to try going on a date with you", I probably would have been all for it! Then, if it didn't work out, so what? I'd have gained enough respect for them to keep a friendship, since I knew that they were honest and truthful with me. But, that doesn't matter now, because now I have a boyfriend, and they will forever be in the "friends" category... So I really think you should just come right out and tell her what you are thinking, and ask her to give it a try. Be straightforward about it. That way, even if she doesn't feel the same way about you, it won't turn into some big drama thing. You can just say that's cool, you still think she's great and she can't blame you for trying right? BUT, if she says she wants to give it a shot, than alright, that's awesome!! Good Luck!
Author Stevew311 Posted January 5, 2005 Author Posted January 5, 2005 thanks for the advice. I need to just say something. However, I ahvent seen her in a couple days, But we are going out tonight, so i will say something to her tonight. I will keep you all posted as to what happens. OH YEAH! I did see her room mate last night at the bar. I asked her if she knew anything about the situation...she said she did. I said so should i just be up front with her. she said i should. shes said i might even like the outcome. if shes not BSing me then this is going to be a GREAT night.
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