Missyhissy Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Hi all I have been on this forum a few times regarding a man I just started seeing a few months now. Anyway I think it is now over. This man has done my head in. I don't know why I gave him so many chances and why I fell so hard for him. We went away for a long weekend and he ended up having no money for anything. I am a single mum of two and I work. He is in a pension of some kind. I don't even know where to begin. He never has money. He comes to stay at my home for days on end eating my food and drinking my beer. He criticises me for the thi gas I don't have time to do. Even my appearance. I know I'm not perfect but for gods sake. I told him he should go back to his home for a bit. But his reaction is to go away indefinitely. Then he turns it around and tells me I told him to go. I called him last night and told him off. I told him I was tried of him criticising me. I do a lot to support my kids and I'm tired. I told him I won't be controlled any longer. He is rude and insensitive. Never showed up on time and never called when he said. What is it in me or others that we ignore all the crap people chuck at us for the sake of love? I haven't heard from him and won't be contacting him. What a bastard. Sorry if this doesn't make sense. I'm overwhelmed. Thanks Missy.
bmh Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 So sorry! Hope it gets better...you and your kids definitely deserve more! 5
Cinnimon Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 So sorry! Hope it gets better...you and your kids definitely deserve more! Definitely!!! 1
Author Missyhissy Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 Instead of thi gas as above. I meant the things I don't do. Lol typing on phone. Not always ideal.
manders_01 Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Myself and another friend both recently went through the "remember the good, forget the bad" with people in our lives. As Iris said in The Holiday, "And every time she does something that tells you she's no good, you ignore it. And every time she comes through and suprises you, she wins you over, and you lose that argument with yourself, that she's not for you." I find a lot of truth in this despite being a quote from a movie. I don't exactly know why we put up with being treated poorly but what I do know is, at least for me, keeping how I feel during those let downs in the forefront of my mind helps. And by doing so I remember that I don't deserve to be treated in a manner that makes me feel like that again. Chin up! 1
Author Missyhissy Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 Thank you for your replies. Manders that's a great quote. Last night on the phone I caught myself apologising to him for reacting about his bad treatment. Then I thought NO and let him know how I felt. He told me he was tired. That's all he said and he hung up. Cheers Missy 1
jonny walker Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Why u want to be wid him try finding some other one u dont deserve that busterd.
tellitlikeitis Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Donyoumlije Beyonce? What woman doesn't? And in her favorite words, "TO THE LEFT TO THE LEFT, EVERYTHING YOU IN IS IN A BOX TO THE LEFT, IN THE CLOSET THAT'S MY STUFF, IF I BOUGHT IT PLEASE DONT TOUCH". "KEEP TALKING THAT MESS, THAT'S FINE, BUT COULD YOU PLEASE WALK ANDVTALK AT THE SAME TIME". LOL!!! GOTTA LOVE IT! I'm sure your a beautiful woman..you got his attention. Why settle..you dnt have to. His broke behind isvthe reason his woman hasnt the time for him. He should be treating you, heck your the woman!! And unless this man is looking like Eric Roberts or Oliver Martinez (Hot darn that is one smoking piece of man cake..yummy) he would have to get his THIRSTY, LEECHING self outta my face. You can do way better hun. He miserable and sorry, dnt let him drag you down with him. Let him go, be strong, there are greater guys still out here.
Author Missyhissy Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 Tellitlikeitis you made me smile. I'm here eating dinner and thinking how nice it is having peace and noones damn opinion. That guy is probably sitting alone. Too bad. No he isn't even hot. I don't know how it ended up like this. Arghh. I just want to get him out if my head and heart. Thank you so much. You have helped me to a better place. Missy
Author Missyhissy Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 Tellitlikeitis you made me smile. I'm here eating dinner and thinking how nice it is having peace and noones damn opinion. That guy is probably sitting alone. Too bad. No he isn't even hot. I don't know how it ended up like this. Arghh. I just want to get him out if my head and heart. Thank you so much. You have helped me to a better place. Missy
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