manders_01 Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Ponchsox thread made me wonder since there seemed to be a bit of a split... When you've started dating someone before a gifting holiday (Christmas, Hanukkah, their birthday, etc.), how long do you feel you should be dating before giving them a gift? How about a card (I tend to think cards can be more personal than some gifts)? What about a "safe" gift compared to a personal gift? Are gifts reserved for only exclusive dating? 1
todreaminblue Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Ponchsox thread made me wonder since there seemed to be a bit of a split... When you've started dating someone before a gifting holiday (Christmas, Hanukkah, their birthday, etc.), how long do you feel you should be dating before giving them a gift? How about a card (I tend to think cards can be more personal than some gifts)? What about a "safe" gift compared to a personal gift? Are gifts reserved for only exclusive dating? cards are perfect gifts.......words sent with thought
d0nnivain Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I enjoy giving gifts so if somebody is in my life on Christmas Day, I give them a gift. In my family you never know who is going to show up so I always bring a wrapped box of chocolates & a bottle of wine or two just in case so any new people have something to unwrap. If you have been on more than 2-3 dates you can always ask the other person if they want to exchange. 1
clia Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I don't think gifts are reserved for exclusive dating, but I do think it is highly contextual and depends a lot on the people involved and how the relationship is going. My now boyfriend's birthday fell about 10 days after our first date, so I simply treated him to dinner and wished him happy birthday. It just felt too soon to do more than that and he was appreciative. A card is always a nice idea. I think when you are 3-6 dates in and the relationship feels like it is moving in a good direction, a small token for Christmas wouldn't be out of the question, as long as it is something neutral -- i.e. a book you had discussed, chocolate, some neato unique gadget or something like that from a store like Uncommon Goods, etc. Something to show you are paying attention to what they are saying, but not too personal or romantic. Beyond date six means you made it pretty far, so a small gift would be fine. How personal or romantic it is depends on how the relationship is going...but I would err on the side of caution. It can definitely be stressful!
Author manders_01 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 Gosh, sorry, I should clarify, I wasn't asking for myself. I was just curious since opinions in the the other thread seemed so split and we are in the midst of two gifting holidays.
CrystalCastles Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 I think this is a great question. I personally would. A card is a good idea. Or you can make something. Like bake cookies or muffins if you're into baking. It's easy to do and still conveys a nice message without you having to empty your wallet. From experience I know men like eating, and since I like cooking, food works as a gift! 1
Targetlock Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 as they say ' the quickest way to a mans heart is through the stomach', well it works on me anyway
lillybear1 Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 I think that if you are not exclusive, I would get a card like many others suggested, or make a baked good or something. I wouldn't get something too nice, otherwise.
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