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The Situation

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Is it really impossible to reconnect and see?

 

My ex and I broke up 8 months ago and haven't spoken in that time. It was entirely my fault for being an indecisive mess. Since then I don't think I've gone a day without thinking of her; yet I've travelled, achieved, been in two short relationships (of sorts) and am finally in a career I've wanted for years.

 

I've given my ex all the space possible, I've worked on myself in every way I can and tried - really tried - to forget her. But I can't. Life is great except for my heart yearning to be the man she wanted me to be for her.

 

We're not 'friends' on Facebook, yet we've popped up in each other's mutual friends' statuses recently. I foolishly checked her profile picture and she looked absolutely gorgeous. Ok, it hasn't helped seeing her name online etc, but I didn't ask for it and I've never forgotten her, anyway.

 

I'm not very good at giving up, and when I have feelings this strong for her, I can only see myself giving it one major shot by asking to be back in her life.

 

So, my question, is it an impossibility? It's a long life (contrary to popular belief) and with a bit of forgiveness and sincerity it has to be worth a go. I'm fed up of all the hypothetical conversations in my mind. Last time we spoke she said, "Leave it to fate." I dismissed it at the time and conceded it was over, but it's not.

 

For the first time ever I'm 100% certain I want to wake up every morning next to the most beautiful person I've ever known. That's a huge step for me, but I'm not afraid to admit that.

 

And to show how much I care, I'm deliberately not getting in touch before Christmas, I don't want to disrupt her plans. It's the least she deserves.

 

So, does anyone have any positive reconciliation stories to give me (and the others here) hope?

 

(Wow, that felt good to write down. Even if I never pluck up the courage or get rejected trying, it feels oddly good to finally admit my feelings for her.)

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todreaminblue Established Member

todreaminblue

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Nothing ever is impossible.......possibility is only ever up to the person who views the situation.....good luck...deb

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My ex came back (she bu with me 3 months ago). She drove 3.5 hours and showed up unexpectedly, poured her heart out and admitted she was wrong among other things. She pretty much said everything any dumpee would want to hear. We were NC for the entire time except when she texted me on our would be 2 year anniversary 2 weeks in. I still don't know what to do. She's making a change, that much I could tell...but still. I'm going to remain NC and think about things and get in touch with her in January. She knows it won't be an easy task and she's said she's in it for the long haul, no matter what it takes etc etc

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