JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 (edited) hey guys I wrote something last night. Instead of sending it to her this Christmas I rather just post it here instead.. We broke up 2 months ago.. we been together for 2 years. Merry Christmas Jaz Even though we are thousand miles apart and were not together anymore always remember that I will always care for you. Doesn't mean when I don't respond and don't answer your calls that I am mad and I already forget about you. It's just that it's time for me to let you go and that is hard to do because part of me still cares. Always remember that once you have true feelings for someone, it will always be there. We been through Ups and Downs in our relationship but all I can think about is the times that you made me smile. I always say I'm over you. I lie to myself, I lie to my friends and my family, but every time I see you the feelings come back my heart flutters and I smile and remember everything. No matter how much time goes by I'll never forget the first time we been together and how I fell in love with you. The hardest thing I will ever do is walk away and continue moving on. We can not be together anymore but we will never be apart. For no matter what life brings us, you will alway be in my heart. I want the best for you even if the best isn't me. Letting you go doesn't mean you don't have space here in my heart, it just means I want to see you happy because I love you. Merry Christmas Jasmine I hope you enjoy your holiday. Edited December 16, 2013 by JohnnyLoverBoy
Haydn Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Good job you posted it here instead of sending. I wouldn`t want to get a letter like that. Whatever you do dont send it! 1
Midwest Wtiter Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Sounds like you were the dumper. On behalf of her, thanks for not sending it. If I got that email, I would just be crushed. It's sweet, but still a reminder that you don't want to be with her. Even if you still love her, it's still a rejection. 1
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 I was a force dumper actually. I ask her to work things out after a week of breaking up but she doesn't want anymore and rejected me.
BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Very sweet letter, but I'm glad you didn't send it. It doesn't matter what we say to the dumpers, they have moved on. There is no point. It is that simple. As dumpees, our duty is to remain NC, heal and move on. Leave it up to the dumpers to write mushy love letters and do the work to get you back. Don't make it easy on them. 1
BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I was a force dumper actually. I ask her to work things out after a week of breaking up but she doesn't want anymore and rejected me. Sorry, but that is the same thing as a dumpee. Usually the dumpers will push you away enough for you to do their dirty work because they are a coward. She succeeded in making you leave so she would avoid feeling guilty. It's manipulation, human psychology. I left my ex and moved out, but only because he said he wasn't in love with me. I wanted it to work, he didn't. He told me he kept trying to push me away so I would leave. That does not make me the dumper. That makes me the courageous one who did what she had to do. You were not a dumper at all, a dumper is someone who wants to end the relationship. I'm pretty sure you didn't.
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 You probably right.. I didn't want to end it and she wants.. She is contacting me though and told me she wanted to keep in touch. Sorry, but that is the same thing as a dumpee. Usually the dumpers will push you away enough for you to do their dirty work because they are a coward. She succeeded in making you leave so she would avoid feeling guilty. It's manipulation, human psychology. I left my ex and moved out, but only because he said he wasn't in love with me. I wanted it to work, he didn't. He told me he kept trying to push me away so I would leave. That does not make me the dumper. That makes me the courageous one who did what she had to do. You were not a dumper at all, a dumper is someone who wants to end the relationship. I'm pretty sure you didn't.
BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 You probably right.. I didn't want to end it and she wants.. She is contacting me though and told me she wanted to keep in touch. This is only to ease her guilt, please don't give her the satisfaction. She left you and you don't owe her anything!
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