mirage12 Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I'm struggling bad with NC today. It's been about 5 weeks since we broke up. About a week and a half since we last talked. I know that there's little chance left for anything, that she just can't handle or doesn't want to having any sort of serious relationship right now. But a few weeks ago she brought up the idea of us meeting up for drinks. We've talked a little more about it but haven't set anything definite up. I want to see her, at least once more to see if there's any emotion left. I want so badly to reach out to her again and ask her about meeting up...I want to email her or call her or something. I'm not sure why this is so hard, and I think it's because I'm still holding on to a tiny shred of hope. I've been doing everything I can to keep myself super busy. Has a great weekend - friends bday party, pub crawl, football with friends, beach time. Going to a basketball game tonight. But the second I'm not doing something or get a lull at work I think about her. All I want to do is break the NC and reach out.
Haydn Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 5 weeks is not too long. Keep NC. WE have all been there and messed things up with NC but take it from me and others here you must not give in! I broke NC early on and it made the pain worse. Be warned.......Take care. Day by day ok?
d0nnivain Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Every day you stay strong is one more day of victory for you. Hang in there.
Author mirage12 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 I deleted her phone number out of my phone to avoid any direct impulse to contact her, especially when drunk...but I think constantly about emailing her or sending a letter or something. I want to get in communication again so that I can try to set up a firm time for us to meet up...if anything, maybe I want to see her in person so I can know 100% that she's emotionally gone (or maybe if there's still something left). I know it would be hard to see the former but at least then it will crush this last bit of hope I have :/
Simon Phoenix Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I deleted her phone number out of my phone to avoid any direct impulse to contact her, especially when drunk...but I think constantly about emailing her or sending a letter or something. I want to get in communication again so that I can try to set up a firm time for us to meet up...if anything, maybe I want to see her in person so I can know 100% that she's emotionally gone (or maybe if there's still something left). I know it would be hard to see the former but at least then it will crush this last bit of hope I have :/ She knows your number/e-mail. If she really wants to get this drink, she'll contact you. I'm guessing she suggested it to be nice after you contacted her but has had second thoughts because she doesn't want to give you the wrong idea right now. Either way, please don't give into your impulses like you did before. You went back to square one because you didn't listen the first time -- don't make this a pattern. 2
Author mirage12 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 She knows your number/e-mail. If she really wants to get this drink, she'll contact you. I'm guessing she suggested it to be nice after you contacted her but has had second thoughts because she doesn't want to give you the wrong idea right now. Either way, please don't give into your impulses like you did before. You went back to square one because you didn't listen the first time -- don't make this a pattern. Simon - I think some part of me knows you're right and that's why I deleted her number and am posting on here instead of initiating contact again. I guess that actions speak louder than words and if she was truly interested in meeting up, she would've contacted me again without letting 2+ weeks go by. Ugh. 1
lauri Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Simon - I think some part of me knows you're right and that's why I deleted her number and am posting on here instead of initiating contact again. I guess that actions speak louder than words and if she was truly interested in meeting up, she would've contacted me again without letting 2+ weeks go by. Ugh. Keep strong. Your silence speaks 10x louder then anything you could say to her now. You did the right thing posting here before you initiated any contact as it will only led to more heartache and confusion. Keep telling yourself that she had her chance and now its gone. Time for a new wonderful girl to have the pleasure of your company
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