iworthmore Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 well. its been 3 months since our last contact. doing well in general. still having my ups and downs. didn't see her since. we live in London, in far away blocks from each other. im having a really big problem with the social media like FB. im always fighting the urge to check her FB and see what she's been up to, i find myself weak once in 10 days and check it and of course it makes things worse. i want to block her on FB in order to make it easier for me but by doing so she will notice that and will only boost her ego knowing that i still care. cuz blocking her on FB means i was on her page and i prefer not seeing her stuff and u know how she will think about it. i didn't block her yet , we have lots of mutual friends on FB and i always see notification's on FB regarding her. some of the mutual friends cant be hidden of my FB timeline cause they'r my friends and i want to see what they up to cuz they live really far away. i know the best thing is blocking her. i wanna do it, what prevents me is the message she will get from that. she must know that her existence doesn't mean anything to me any-more and seeing her will not affect me in any way. ( hopefully :-). i am positive she will notice if i blocked her. im thinking on deactivating my account and that will be the best. but it will make me look desperate and confused. any advice? thank you.
Softie Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Just don't do it, everytime you get the urge, do something else instead. Pick up a book and read a self help book, do some yoga, put on a film. It's hard but you can control it, my ex doesn't have FB or twitter but I would still check his ebay or works twitter feed, anything for information but now I stop myself......it's now been 2 days. When you get the urge do something else, change your pattern. Only you can control yourself and your actions.
ThatMan Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 im thinking on deactivating my account and that will be the best. but it will make me look desperate and confused. May I ask why you think that?
Author iworthmore Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 May I ask why you think that? i'v been always active on FB. i have many friends and family members who live abroad and we r always in touch daily. she knows that. deactivating my account means im bothered with it. there is no other reason she know that can make me do this. i have time. didnt get a new job or project or attend any college. even my friends will ask me why. they all know i have time and nothing has changed in my routine.
radiodarcy Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 You seem to be overthinking this. This isn't about her, it's about you. If it's to difficult for you to know what she's up to, then by all means block her or deactivate your account. It doesn't matter how she'll view it. You are in pain due to the end of the relationship and you need to take this this time to heal and move forward. And you can't do that if you're preoccupied with what she's up to. Just as it's none of your concern what she does now; it's not her concern as to how you choose to handle your fb account or anything else for that matter. Again you're doing this to take care of you. Not her. As for your mutual friends, presumably they are aware the relationship has ended and will understand. You can always give them your contact info (email/phone) and keep in touch that way as well.
Volthi10 Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Just block her. i have been able to stay away from my ex's page, but when the urge gets really bad I think about how I don't want to feel worse and i avoid it. If you feel that you really can't stay away then block her, who cares what she thinks, if she notices it means she is too stalking you, but you don't need that. For me, when it becomes too much I block him so that he doesn't pop up on mutual friend conversions because I know that that will ruin my day. :/
PS.chicago Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 You really shouldn't let someone have that much power over you. Think about it, she's not in your life anymore but essentially SHE dictates how you use YOUR Facebook. 1
Kizza Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 You can block posts and updates about her and from her without blocking her
Mr me to Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Blocking her will send the message that you have moved on and don't need her in your life any more. It will make her think you have moved on and don't want her to be able to see what you are up to and who with. It can only be a positive move
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