DarkNoel Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 So over the weekend, I went out to dinner with a girl that I met a week ago. She gave me her number, we planned when we were going to meet up. And I think it went pretty well. We spent a good amount of time talking about our lives, backgrounds, goals, personalities, etc, including some deep topics. I paid, we said our goodbyes. I thought of it as a nice "simple" first date. I'm not a big believer of dating rules or the "three days rule" or anything, so I sent her a text around 24 hours later, telling her I had a good time getting to know her better over dinner. I also asked if she would like to go out for dinner again sometime. As the guy, I decided to initiate, so it would make it as easy for her as possible. I didn't want to take the risk of doing nothing, and possible not hearing back. So far, a couple of days have passed and I've gotten no response from her, which is quite strange. She usually texts back within an hour with usually detailed responses. She did tell me that she was quite busy over the weekend with some lunch/dinner plans with a few friends. So I'm not sure if she's ignoring me, still thinking about it, or doesn't want to tell me. I've looked a few previous threads on this issue and the takeaway is that no response probably means she isn't interested. I'm ready to move on, but I would like to hear a more definitive answer (either yes or no is fine with me), rather than not hearing back and wondering. So what should I do? I was thinking to give her a couple of more days and hope she responds. If she doesn't contact me by then: 1) Should I ask her nicely for a definitive answer? 2) Or should I just simply move on, since the ball is in her court. Even if she was busy, she would probably text me back if I crossed her mind at all at some later time, right? I'm concerned that if I choose option 2, I may never hear from her again, and it might get awkward if we happen to run into each other down the line. Thoughts and/or advice anyone? Your responses are greatly appreciated.
Philosoraptor Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Up to you. You've got zero to lose by asking again. If she ignores again or says no, you have your answer. Text could have come at a busy time and she forgot to respond... who knows?
Author DarkNoel Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 On one hand, I believe her being busy is entirely possible, since this has kinda happened before. She has forgotten about facebook messages that I have sent her. On the other hand, I really don't want to come off as desperate or needy. So I don't know if I should push the envelope.
Poppyolive Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I'd leave it, shes got the message. She knows you fancy another date, no need to ask again or ask why she didn't respond. That looks a bit too desperate. If she was busy she'll respond in time, if you still hear nothing then she's probably not interested for whatever reasons, that you dont really need to know, especially after one date. You sound sweet & wonderful. Take care of you heart. 1
manders_01 Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I think she's giving you the fade out (which is a completely unacceptable IMO once a date has been had but that's neither here nor there). I agree that while you have nothing to lose by asking again, it's highly unlikely it will do any good. I would recommend moving on. I'm not saying cut her off completely; if you're interested, there's no reason you can't respond / have that second date if the timing is right. But I also wouldn't wait around for her. Good luck! 1
Zahara Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 On one hand, I believe her being busy is entirely possible, since this has kinda happened before. She has forgotten about facebook messages that I have sent her. On the other hand, I really don't want to come off as desperate or needy. So I don't know if I should push the envelope. Busy is never an excuse. It takes but 5 seconds to hit a few buttons if one is interested. Forgetting about FB messages is one thing as you don't always check up on FB. Your phone is always by your side. Don't come off needy and desperate. You texted her and she hasn't responded. You met her over a week and had one date. Don't put so much effort and thought into this. If someone, is interested, you'll know it. 1
rocketman122 Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 she saw your message. have no doubt. so: a-move on and if she wakes up from her coma and contacts you, can continue on. although if someone took so long to contact me, id move on and be done wit it. b-shes not interested. c-she lost her phone? not likely. but have no doubt, she saw the message. women are text freaks. when I dated OLD and a woman took more than and hour time and time again to reply, there would be no next date. its 10 seconds to reply and just common courtesy. when a person leaves you hanging for so long they try to play mind games with you. meh, not my thing. personally keep your dignity intact and move on. if you dated for a while Id say try again. new one? move on.
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