ponchsox Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I met a very nice woman for coffee and she agreed to a second date next weekend. Since its right before Christmas, would a small gift be appropriate? Any ideas what a nice appropriate gift would be (I was thinking like some nice chocolates)?
Robbyrob Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I met a very nice woman for coffee and she agreed to a second date next weekend. Since its right before Christmas, would a small gift be appropriate? Any ideas what a nice appropriate gift would be (I was thinking like some nice chocolates)? Chocolate is a good idea. But give it to her at the end of the date, so that it has a bigger 'oho' effect
d0nnivain Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 A small box of chocolates would be a lovely gesture. Once upon a time men used to give flowers & candy just as part of the date. Bear in mind, she may feel awkward if she didn't get you anything. You may learn a lot about her character when you see how she reacts. Hopefully she will be gracious. 1
AMusing Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I would be touched if a date brought me a (very) small Christmas gift on our second date. Nothing too personal or elaborate, of course; chocolate is perfect.
Eivuwan Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Haha, I may be the only one who feels differently. It just seems that chocolates are always given when the person has no clue what else to get. My mom always stocks up on chocolates to give out. My dad always gets them and doesn't eat them. Maybe a box of colorful macaroons would be better. Just something different you know?
clia Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I would not like it if a guy brought me a gift on a second date. I would feel really uncomfortable. 1
TintedChrome Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I would not like it if a guy brought me a gift on a second date. I would feel really uncomfortable. I agree. That sort of thing comes only after you've already established some sort of relationship. If done too early it's like you're trying to buy her affection. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Why does it have to be "buying affection"? Why can't it be a nice gesture? We're talking about a box of choclates here (< $10), not a diamond necklace. The amount spent is probably roughly equal to 1 drink in a bar.
manders_01 Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I would not like it if a guy brought me a gift on a second date. I would feel really uncomfortable. I agree. That sort of thing comes only after you've already established some sort of relationship. If done too early it's like you're trying to buy her affection. If it was the middle of June then yeah, I think I'd lean toward it being early for a gift. But it's the weekend before Christmas, clearly meant to be a Christmas gift and nothing extravagant. I think it's a lovely gesture! 1
soccerrprp Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Yeah, it could be a little awkward. She may feel uncomfortable and taken-off guard by it since the two of you did not discuss. But, giving it at the end is a good idea. This way, if she didn't bring anything for you, you don't feel obligated and uncomfortable for her, to present a gift. Nice gesture anyway. I think most girls would be okay with something very small. 1
Author ponchsox Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 So am I better off not getting her something this early on?
d0nnivain Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 No. Be true to your generous spirit. A small token at Christmas is lovely. More people should be so kind. 1
soccerrprp Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 So am I better off not getting her something this early on? Personally, I would say yes. Don't make her feel obligated or guilty. Why not just a card if you really feel you need to get her something to mark the holiday? 1
Babolat Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I am on the bubble/fence on this one. I get that it's close to Christmas and I can see how some woman would like this, and, it does show you are a good person. I just think the risk of it coming across as "too strong/much too soon" is greater than the potential reward. I dunoo...could go either way I guess. I like the candy/food idea, as it's not like you are giving her something that she would have to later figure out what to do with if you two do not continue.
MidwestUSA Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Here is what I would like. One of those really decadent candied/caramel apples. The ones we have here are called Merb's Bionic apples. If you opt not to get one for your date, I'll send you my address. . thanks!
Author ponchsox Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 I am on the bubble/fence on this one. I get that it's close to Christmas and I can see how some woman would like this, and, it does show you are a good person. I just think the risk of it coming across as "too strong/much too soon" is greater than the potential reward. I dunoo...could go either way I guess. I like the candy/food idea, as it's not like you are giving her something that she would have to later figure out what to do with if you two do not continue. I'm going to wait. If this date goes well then I could always give her something the following week. Thanks for the advice everyone.
Mariposa10 Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Same here, I'd feel bad about not getting you anything. No gifts, please.
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