summerlove Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 i have finally made it at least a half of day with out crying. i did get to talk to my ex today but yet he had to go and he said he would call me back later. well it's like 11PM and he didn't call? I'm starting to realize that were not going to get back together even though it only been a week. But my main fear is not having a next love or that i've left my one true love! i'm afraid i will never meet another guy that i feel this way about! how can i get pass this feeling now?
uriel Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 You will find someone else to love, someone who loves you in return. The love won't be exactly the same -- each is different. But it will feel great. That is, when you're ready to feel great again. Right now, you're feeling bad about yourself. You're also turning to your ex for support. And, you're holding on to hope. All completely typical after a break-up. First, find some other support. Stop turning emotionally toward your ex. That just causes the pain to deepen and linger. Next, identify what bad feelings you are having about yourself and begin to work on those. Treat yourself well, like you would a friend you loved was going through this. When you feel able, work on those low self-esteem areas. You'll feel better when you take action. Slowly, you'll begin to go out and get interested in more again. Take your time. You've got this shock and sorrow to work through. Almost everyone you know or ever will (after a certain age especially) has a love lost story, but the vast majority have loved again, and some very, very well. This isn't the end -- but it's going to hurt for awhile. Be kind to yourself. -- uriel
Weird Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 give it time sweet pea...time will make you not think the way you are thinking now.
snipit3172 Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 i know exactly what your going through but at least you still talk to your ex wich is a good thing i think i have not heard off mine in 3 months i feel same as you but dont think my heart can risk getting involved with anyone ever again there is onlt so much heartbreak anyone can take i have always had bad relationships but my last one was so different in every way i still wish and hope one day he will come back and i just hope that day comes soon cos i feel empty without him hope all goes well for you
denatalie Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 God! Reading your posts guys is like you got thoughts out of my mind - smae fears and same stupid hopes. It hurts sooo much and i don't know how to live through that... take care
Devildog Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by snipit3172 there is only so much heartbreak anyone can take Believe me, you have no idea how much heartbreak a person can take. Breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend is nothing. Have you had a sibling commit suicide? Have you had a family member die in a car accident on the morning of a major family holiday at a young age? Have you lost an infant daughter 11 days after her birth? Have you had a spouse decide 6 months after that she wants to be with someone, hell, anyone else? And in doing so take your other daughter away from you? Your heart is going to get broken time and time again. This situation is a minor thing. In time you will pick yourself up and keep on going, that is what life is about, surviving to see another morning.
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