Chris715 Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Anyone who checks my post history can see that it's been over a year since my ex gf broke up with me and that it's been a long, miserable road for me. I'm 3+ months NC with her but it still hurts. Is this my depression and anxiety getting the best of me? Am I really still missing her? A combination of the two? I've been trying to stay busy with work, hobbies, and friends recently, especially since I have zero school this semester to occupy my time, but none of it is working. Every day I still have those weak moments where I think about going onto her Facebook and breaking NC. Does she miss me at all? (probably not) Does she even ever think about me at all? Is she still dating someone else? (god I hope not) Seriously what am I doing wrong? We dated for less than a year and it's taking me longer to get over this then the relationship lasted. Pretty pathetic.
Author Chris715 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 Just venting and I think I had something of a panic attack tonight. Ugh I don't even know anymore, think I'll try to get some sleep.
SilverlinedCloud Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Hey Chris, its going to happen,but wanna reassure you you are carrying out the right actions, allow them to takt effect, it will sometimes be a while but give it a chance. 3 months in for me i didnt think i could ever be a crying mess because i was the one who initiated it.. all i wanted was him and just the opportunity to have contact and have him near me again and we were together for a short period of time. But the heart knows no difference between one and ten years.. when someone makes their mark, they make their mark. Im 100 plus days of NC in and i still have the odd occasion that when things are going wrong all i want is to speak to him, those memories are dear and beautiful, but they werent built to be forever and it wasnt designed to last or for me to always rely on them, or him. You arent doing anything wrong, but at the same time as doing all of these things that take your mind off of it, you have to eventually (doesnt have to be now) find mental strength to redirect your thoughts or at least control them. You dont have to turn your thoughts into what you HATE about her and all and a little mental will power to change your thoughts when the feelings get out of hand. It will get better!!! *HUG* 1
Author Chris715 Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 Hey Silver, thanks for your response. I was having a pretty rough night last night, and tonight's not much better either. Going to try to stay positive tonight though and stay busy until I feel tired enough to fall asleep. But the heart knows no difference between one and ten years.. when someone makes their mark, they make their mark. *HUG* If this is true then I need to stop stressing about getting over her. I've been feeling pathetic and like a loser because I've been dwelling on her for the entirety of the last year when she was definitely completely over me by a month or two of our break up. The difference is she's the first person I've loved and I don't think she loved me at all, just used me for comfort during a tough time in her life. So maybe she left quite a mark, I don't know.
Omei Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 It may be taking long because you're just over 3 months no contact you may of been broken up for a year but you had yet to live without her until recently, any contact before might have been a very long strung out "hope". Not saying im right but maybe.
Author Chris715 Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 It may be taking long because you're just over 3 months no contact you may of been broken up for a year but you had yet to live without her until recently, any contact before might have been a very long strung out "hope". Not saying im right but maybe. No you're definitely right. I was in pretty regular contact with her for like 9 or so months after breaking up and the entire time I had that pathetic hope, however little, that she would see an "error in her ways" or fall for me again, or something, and we could have another chance. Now I finally realize how ****ing dumb I've been this last year.
Omei Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 No you're definitely right. I was in pretty regular contact with her for like 9 or so months after breaking up and the entire time I had that pathetic hope, however little, that she would see an "error in her ways" or fall for me again, or something, and we could have another chance. Now I finally realize how ****ing dumb I've been this last year. Naw you're not dumb you just love hard, true and faithfully. Much like me, its a good quailty that can hurt like heck, I too held on forever. 1
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