Softie Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 To make you better. For some alcohol is a depressant, for some a couple of glasses helps them relax a bit. For some keeping busy helps, for some staying still helps. Some like to wallow, some choose not too. There is no right or wrong, as there is no physio or treatment plan for healing a broken heart like there is a broken bone. We have to treat ourselves kindly, grieve for the loss of a loved one the same way we would a person whose passed away, ask others for help or just mix with our friends and family again. Accept they are not coming back, they might come back but it will won't be in the same form as originally was, and when/if they do decide to, wouldn't you rather be in a place of strength and happiness than in a bad place? It is true, I believe that living well is the best revenge. You can either stay down permanently or you can, yes have your time of utter grief and sadness, but I would suggest staying there is not the answer. What good does that achieve? Your still alive, you still wake up, you still breath - you and only you can choose to LIVE your life or coast along in it. Me, I choose to LIVE. Whatever it takes. I thought I was doing ok and past it, turns out I hadn't grieved properly and had just shut some of the feelings away. I did some energy work in the for morph yoga, reiki and sound baths, this made me feel worse for a few days to the point of not being able to hold myself together, crying at the drop of a hat, feeling like I didn't want to go on. But this passed, I obviously needed to get it out of my system. So I'm here now, I feel better and you know what, my life will be even better than it was before, only because I choose it to be this way. You have a choice, be a victim sure, but don't get stuck there. Only you can change yourself, your energy you give off, your aura, your zest for life.....only you can LIVE your life, no one can do it for you. And what a great place to be for your ex to see, you thriving without them. 2
polynomial Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Part of me wants to show my ex how well I can manage without him but part of me wants to show him how he broke me. I do hope time will heal and I can start living again.
Author Softie Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 Better show to show him that he might of broken your heart but that he is not going to break your spirit? That will show him more, he knows he hurt you. As I said its a choice. For me it's been 2.5 months I've pretty much accepted it now. Still hurts a bit but he will not take my spirit for any longer. No way. And you know what he'll be the one to suffer in the long run, while I'm thriving and happy hell have lost the best thing that ever happened to him. He'll see I'm still that happy go lucky girl that does lots of cool stuff.
polynomial Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Better show to show him that he might of broken your heart but that he is not going to break your spirit? That will show him more, he knows he hurt you. As I said its a choice. For me it's been 2.5 months I've pretty much accepted it now. Still hurts a bit but he will not take my spirit for any longer. No way. And you know what he'll be the one to suffer in the long run, while I'm thriving and happy hell have lost the best thing that ever happened to him. He'll see I'm still that happy go lucky girl that does lots of cool stuff. This would be the ultimate goal, yes. Guess it just takes some more time for me, only 3 weeks since break up.
Author Softie Posted December 19, 2013 Author Posted December 19, 2013 This would be the ultimate goal, yes. Guess it just takes some more time for me, only 3 weeks since break up. 3 weeks it's still raw. Time is a great healer if people let it be some get stuck in this unhappy state, I choose not too. I went to the very bottom at about 8 weeks mark when I accepted it was over, and was really low for about 5 days but I got it out my system and since then have chosen to be happy. I'm still not 100% over it! I still think of him but it no longer kills me or does my head in. I can meditate and calm my mind a lot of the time if needs be, but to be honest that "needs be" is getting less and less and less. It's now been, well since beginning of October. 1
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