Chi townD Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Good, this will help heal you faster. You asked about what you should do if she contacts you again. Here's what you do. Follow it to the letter. Nothing. Do nothing. As soon as you see her text, stop and take a deep breath. Then get on the computer and come here. Post about it and do not respond to the text. People will be here to talk you through it. 1
Lilo85 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I think David is doing very well. Yes he might have begged etc.. So did i after the break up. No shame, just moving on and learning. dont be so hard on the boy! I meant that I am the one who has done that. Lost my dignity and now feel bad about it. That is something that a person should always keep intact! 2
Author David87 Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 I think David is doing very well. Yes he might have begged etc.. So did i after the break up. No shame, just moving on and learning. dont be so hard on the boy! Thanks Haydn.I'm not breaking no contact, I'll ignore her for now, at least till she unblockes me on fb.
Haydn Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 SORRY. i MISS- READ I meant that I am the one who has done that. Lost my dignity and now feel bad about it. That is something that a person should always keep intact! 2
Author David87 Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 Thanks for the support Chi townD and Lilo85.
Author David87 Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 Tomorrow I have a date with the new girl, the thing is I feel guilty... I love my ex so much and whant her back in my life at some point. I don't feel like I'm ready to date yet. If i go out with the new girl I have zero chances for my ex to come back, if I stay single maybe I have 2 percent chances.....but it's still better than zero. What should I do?
ponchsox Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Tomorrow I have a date with the new girl, the thing is I feel guilty... I love my ex so much and whant her back in my life at some point. I don't feel like I'm ready to date yet. If i go out with the new girl I have zero chances for my ex to come back, if I stay single maybe I have 2 percent chances.....but it's still better than zero. What should I do? Go out with the new girl and don't look back!!
Author David87 Posted December 27, 2013 Author Posted December 27, 2013 So I'm in NC for two and a half weeks now, I was doing very well until a couple of hours ago when a stupid friend of mine told me " look at this "... It was a picture with my ex and her new boyfriend:( Omg I felt like someone stabbed me in the heart, I almost fainted. Man she was so beautiful. When she was with me she never put on make up or dressed nice especially in the last months of the relationship. Now I can eat, I can sleep and I feel useless. How could she found a new boyfriend so fast? I guess she never loved me, and I don't mean absolutely nothing to her. This hurts so bad.
Chi townD Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 (edited) How could she move on so fast? Because she was thinking of dumping you for a long time while she was dating you. She was discussing it with her girlfriends and family members long before she dumped you. The kick in the teeth is, you were the last to know. SO, when she did dump you, it wasn't a great surprise to anyone; they already knew it was coming. Therefore, she had already detached herself from the relationship WHILE she was with you. She already mourned the loss of the relationship while she was still with you. Therefore, now that it's over and she dumped you. You are the one devastated and she's miles ahead of you in the healing process. That's why she has no remorse and could give a rats ass about your feelings. Stay NC. Start moving on with your life. Make positive changes to your life. Go to the gym, push weight and run your ass off on the treadmill. Burn off your frustrations and stress that you're having. Eat right and get plenty of sleep. Save the money that you would have been spending on your Ex in the relationship and save it for a trip that you've always wanted to go on. Also, tell your friends that you don't want to know about her, or ANYTHING about her. If they're truly your friends, they'll respect your wishes. I speculate that your friend was only showing you that because he wanted you to see her moving on and that you needed to do the same. I don't think he did it to be mean spirited. He just wants to see you put your Ex in the past and move on. For you to see that picture may have gotten you angry enough to do that. Edited December 27, 2013 by Chi townD 1
Author David87 Posted December 27, 2013 Author Posted December 27, 2013 (edited) Chi townD thanks 4 your replay, you are absolutely right. I know that I have to do all of those things, but the reality hit me like a train today. It feels like i'm going to have a heart attack. Of course I will stay NC forever with this girl because she hurt me like no one else ever. She lied to me by saying I LOVE YOU, then dumped me the next day by text . I guess I'm the loser in this whole story, i gotta pick up the pices and start all over again. Edited December 27, 2013 by David87
Author David87 Posted December 31, 2013 Author Posted December 31, 2013 It's nye and I got a text from my ex's mother, the usual stuff Happy New Year and all that crap, didn't got one for Christmas dough. Made me very sand and blue:( Anyway Happy new year to you all.
Author David87 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 So, one month after BU, I had my ups and downs, but I think that the worst part it's over, because my love turned into hate. I got a strange message from a number that I didn't know and it says: Every time someone disappoint me, i don't care, but if is someone i care... i think for 10 seconds... then I add the person to the irrelevant list... What the hell? What have I done to disappoint her? Beeing to nice, and to loving yes true.... She disappointed me so many times and I didn't dumped her. Bad day:(
Haydn Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Its getting better David, proud of you mate for sticking to NC. You have come a long way from your first post. (Like myself!) Keep smiling. So, one month after BU, I had my ups and downs, but I think that the worst part it's over, because my love turned into hate. I got a strange message from a number that I didn't know and it says: Every time someone disappoint me, i don't care, but if is someone i care... i think for 10 seconds... then I add the person to the irrelevant list... What the hell? What have I done to disappoint her? Beeing to nice, and to loving yes true.... She disappointed me so many times and I didn't dumped her. Bad day:( 1
Chi townD Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 So, one month after BU, I had my ups and downs, but I think that the worst part it's over, because my love turned into hate. I got a strange message from a number that I didn't know and it says: Every time someone disappoint me, i don't care, but if is someone i care... i think for 10 seconds... then I add the person to the irrelevant list... What the hell? What have I done to disappoint her? Beeing to nice, and to loving yes true.... She disappointed me so many times and I didn't dumped her. Bad day:( So, if it's from an unknown number, how do you know it's from her? Could have been a wrong number. There's no way of knowing. So, ignore it. Personally, I would have responded, "Uh...who is this and how do you know my philosophy on life?" 1
Author David87 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 Its getting better David, proud of you mate for sticking to NC. You have come a long way from your first post. (Like myself!) Keep smiling. I'm getting there, slow but it still counts.
Author David87 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 So, if it's from an unknown number, how do you know it's from her? Could have been a wrong number. There's no way of knowing. So, ignore it. Personally, I would have responded, "Uh...who is this and how do you know my philosophy on life?" Who sends this kind of texts? I'm not sure but I think it's from my ex. I don't understand with what I disappointed her, it doesn't matter now anyway.
Chi townD Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Who sends this kind of texts? I'm not sure but I think it's from my ex. I don't understand with what I disappointed her, it doesn't matter now anyway. Dude, one year close to Halloween, I got a pic texted to me from some women dressed in a sexy witches outfit. Had no idea who this girl was. Obviously, she sent it to the wrong number. So, it's possible.
Author David87 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 Dude, one year close to Halloween, I got a pic texted to me from some women dressed in a sexy witches outfit. Had no idea who this girl was. Obviously, she sent it to the wrong number. So, it's possible. I'm sure that it may be a mistake or the text got to me by accident, but also it may be from my ex(I think I know her). I didn't respod anyway. 1
CaliBabe Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 It will only get better from here David, Godspeed.
Haydn Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Sorry Chi, that was me. (just to clear that up) David your doing great. Ignore it. Dude, one year close to Halloween, I got a pic texted to me from some women dressed in a sexy witches outfit. Had no idea who this girl was. Obviously, she sent it to the wrong number. So, it's possible. 2
Author David87 Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 So I finally know the real reason for my ex dumping me. Since we broke up my brothers girlfriend followed my ex activity on facebook with a different fb profile she tried to update me wen something happened but I told her that I don't want know. She told me that my ex changed her status" In a relationship with...." since 1 dec I was shocked because she duped me the very same day, 1 dec. So now I know that se duped me because she found someone better. It hurts so bad, all my emotions resurfaced. I guess thats life. I think that there's the possibility that she cheated on me. My first reaction was to call her and tell her that she is a lying narcissistic self caring slut, or send a text, but I didn't. I've decided that the best thing to do is to remain silent.
Fufu Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 So I finally know the real reason for my ex dumping me. Since we broke up my brothers girlfriend followed my ex activity on facebook with a different fb profile she tried to update me wen something happened but I told her that I don't want know. She told me that my ex changed her status" In a relationship with...." since 1 dec I was shocked because she duped me the very same day, 1 dec. So now I know that se duped me because she found someone better. It hurts so bad, all my emotions resurfaced. I guess thats life. I think that there's the possibility that she cheated on me. My first reaction was to call her and tell her that she is a lying narcissistic self caring slut, or send a text, but I didn't. I've decided that the best thing to do is to remain silent. Hi David, You made the absolute right decision not to contact her. Do stay this way, no contact all the way since you found out the truth. Move on with your life, believe you sure can do it.
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