Getting back on the horse?

[claypoole]

Hey all!

 

So I made a thread here about a year ago after the toughest break-up I've ever gone through. Time's passed, and I'm much better than I was then, but I've found myself now distant and unable to really invest in new romantic relationships.

 

Some details: my ex of three years left me after a few months of fighting and immediately started dating a colleague of hers at work. I felt pretty worthless, and rebounded hard with a colleague at my new company before calling that off after a month. About six months ago, I decided to try online dating again, and met a bunch of people. Didn't really click with anyone but that's fine... the problem now is that I'm meeting people who are objectively attractive (cute, smart, kind, thoughtful etc), and I've tried dating a couple but ultimately I just don't care about them. Am I still healing? Am I doomed to a life of misanthropy? I feel like I'm not letting myself commit to anyone new because of how much I was hurt last year, but at the same time I miss being in a relationship and feel like I want to get back on that horse... hence the title.

 

What do, Loveshack? Should I just chill for a while and not date? I'm open to any and all advice.

 

Thanks for your time,

 

Clay

[d0nnivain]

I think chilling for a while & not actively dating would be a good idea. You haven't really spent time by yourself by choice since the break up. You have started to heal & are able to find people objectively attractive. The "clicking" piece will come but for now, don't force it.