mirage12 Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Someone wrote this to me recently. It really applied to my break-up and it's so hard, but it's a way to think about things. Maybe it'll help you: Sometimes, a relationship matures into a responsibility, instead of a joy. And our commitment to one another becomes strained. We ask ourselves: how is this helping me? All I am doing is neglecting it, its just one more thing I am bad at, and it doesn't help me at all. So, I have to either change it, or leave it. Often, we leave it. Because changing it is just one more item on our to do list, and we just don't have anything left. Does this concept help? She can see her friends (no responsibility there), date someone new / casual (no responsibility there), appear in public like she is having the time of her life. In reality, when a friendship or a relationship requires more of her, she will have to let it go, or let it get more distant. Because she doesn't have the time or emotional capacity to take on the responsibility of being there for someone else. Including you. 1
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