blind_otter Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 From personal experience, I kinda feel like it's just a communication/culture clash issue. Granted, it is a bit neurotic (WHO isn't??) - I know that there are tons of chicks out there who are hotter than me, more talented, and most assuredly more mentally stable ( ). That's why I don't usually venture to ask a lover or even male friend to compare me to anyone. I do probe, though, to understand their tastes...like "who would you f*ck, Salma Hayek or....Paris Hilton?" or something like that. (I prefer Salma, myself.) But depressive people usually have a more realistic view of themselves to be honest with you. We just focus on our faults. People who are not depressive are, for the most part, slightly delusional. That's the only possible way to be happy for the majority of the time.
Bronzepen Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 Originally posted by chica Come on people.... give it a rest, can you? Fairytail is not being over the top if you ask me. She hasn't "busted his balls" over it, hasn't gotten hysterical or desperate, hasn't done anything so out of the ordinary or drastic that should warrant these nasty comments! We're talking about her feelings and she is reacting as MOST women would and do in the same situation. Sure there are some chicks out there who dig porn, others that say they don't give a sh*t if their men do - but the bottom line is that they are the minority. The kind of response that you are displaying to this contributes to why most women have insecurities or feelings of hurt and inadequacy when it comes to porn. You are helping to perpetuate the cycle. Well done. Have a little respect for others feelings. chica Fairytail ask for it. Here is her own quote from 1st thread. Help me out, please! Give me opinions, suggestions, criticisms, compliments, chastisements, enlightenments, Devil's-Advocat-isms -- ANY sort of input will be appreciated and recieved gracefully. I like to think that she has appreciated the input and has received it gracefully. Originally posted by FairyTail I think -- TO ME -- I am the most beautiful person on Earth. TO EVERYONE ELSE -- is a different story. So, I don't think that EVERYONE or MY BOYFRIEND must think so, as well. I think I am beautiful because I am ME. I thought that everyone DID think the same way -- that IF you love someone, THEY become the most beautiful person on Earth. So, hearing that from my boyfriend was really painful. But, it is a lesson learned -- people can and do separate the physical from the emotional. I just thought I'd clear that up. FairyTail I think the last paragraph answeres your own question. You thought everyone thinks the same way as you. If you love someone, THEY become the most beautiful person on Earth. As I hope you have come to realize, not everyone thinks or acts the same way. While you have acknowledged that people think diffrently then you, I think you have not come to terms with this. As for the pornography issue. A job is job. If you don't like it then don't apply to it.
Author FairyTail Posted January 6, 2005 Author Posted January 6, 2005 SoleMate -- You can hope for whatever you like, but it didn't teach him a "lesson in honesty." I don't agree with all of what you said, but thanks. mental_traveller -- Please read my other posts more clearly. dyermaker -- There's no need to change my boyfriend because I accept him the way he is. GrinningManiac -- Are you a Psychologist? Well, I certainly hope not. I'm two years of graduate school away from being one myself and know that I am hardly a candidate for therapy. But, evenso, here's diagnosis after a quick analysis on you: READ MY POSTS MORE THOROUGHLY. I HAVE NO DESIRE WHATSOEVER TO REPEAT MYSELF. If you had done so, you'd see that my self-image is FAR from fragile. I really don't give a sh*t if you don't think I'm beautiful or if you think I'm ugly or what. This is what I've been trying to convey the whole time. YOUR OPINION MEANS JACK TO ME. Also, my boyfriend is VERY far from being "whipped." YX32Nemesis -- Oi vey, how many times to I have to say it... TO ME. Most beautiful...TO ME. In my opinion. To myself. If I ever have an eyeball hanging out of my head and a giant scar down the side of my face, I will not end up staying in the house all day crying out of agony, self-loathing, and fearing the loss of my dating future. I will still think I'm beautiful because of my belief. STOP TAKING IT SO LITERALLY, EVERYONE, PLEASE. Chica -- I appreciate the support, Chica. Blind_Otter -- ...And tis a lesson well learned by me. I will no longer ask what I don't want to know. Listen, people. I appreciate the input, but to be perfectly honest, I'm over it now.I've collected all of the data I need from other peoples' opinions to get a more broad view of the situation. This is now turning into one gigantic petty argument with people pointing fingers every which way and making posts that really don't make sense, and it's just spinning out of control. You people are free to argue amoungst yourselves now if you so desire, but I'm done posting. (And now I know who the people are who enjoy being mean to people for no reason. There's always a few on message board.) Thanks again.
SoleMate Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 (Post 1) ...I can't get this out of my mind -- I need opinions... (Post 53) ...This is what I've been trying to convey the whole time. YOUR OPINION MEANS JACK TO ME... Sounds like almost everybody is off base except you....IN YOUR OPINION. I'll admit it...there is a lot about your posts that do really tempt me (and, I'm guessing, others) to respond in a less than constructive matter. Some people can take criticisms and wildly differing opinions. You appear to be one of those who can't. The angrier you get, the more tempting it is to take shots. I wonder if you have learned anything from this exchange.
moimeme Posted January 7, 2005 Posted January 7, 2005 Are you a Psychologist? Well, I certainly hope not. I'm two years of graduate school away from being one myself and know that I am hardly a candidate for therapy. Uh huh.
Bronzepen Posted January 7, 2005 Posted January 7, 2005 Originally posted by FairyTail If you had done so, you'd see that my self-image is FAR from fragile. I really don't give a sh*t if you don't think I'm beautiful or if you think I'm ugly or what. This is what I've been trying to convey the whole time. YOUR OPINION MEANS JACK TO ME. Also, my boyfriend is VERY far from being "whipped." oh well, so much for appreciating the input and receiving it gracefully. Listen, people. I appreciate the input, but to be perfectly honest, I'm over it now.I've collected all of the data I need from other peoples' opinions to get a more broad view of the situation. This is now turning into one gigantic petty argument with people pointing fingers every which way and making posts that really don't make sense, and it's just spinning out of control. You people are free to argue amoungst yourselves now if you so desire, but I'm done posting. (And now I know who the people are who enjoy being mean to people for no reason. There's always a few on message board.) Thanks again. Your welcome. Y'all come back now, ya hear!!!
girlmenot Posted January 30, 2005 Posted January 30, 2005 Erm, you look very strange to me, Fairytail. So does that Kimera singer dude. But I do admire your strong sense of self-esteem. Different strokes for different folks eh?
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