Anyone else have to be the Dumper and the Dumpee at the same time?

[rosedl]

He was pulling back....further....then further....then...assessing his options...questioning the relationship....needing space (months of it)....

 

Eventually, I just stated the obvious...that we were broken up, got my things, left a note that said I was done being strung along, and I was just recognizing the reality of where we were (five months of space is a break up not a break, apart for near two months now, he wanted another three) and I was done pretending that this may go anywhere....

 

It is a very strange position to be in. Two months ago, he wanted to be together forever, three weeks ago decided continued space until things calmed down and we could go to therapy, three days ago, it was questioning the entire relationship.

 

He broke up with me, I wanted to stay and work things out, but ironically, I am the one who actually finalized it. Probably what he wanted all along, too cowardly to do it or selfishly keeping his options open...most likely both.

 

It's a odd position. Breaking up when you don't want to and being dumped at the same time.

[BlessYourCottonSocks]

Same situation as you.

 

He said "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" and we lived together. Today I moved out while he was at work (he doesn't know) and I had to make the decision to leave. Because he has been off and on with his emotions for 3 years.

 

It's awful. My heart is shattered.