Have no idea what to do

[Surething1999]

I seriously think I am having a panic or anxiety attack. I feel like I cannot breathe. I just found out that my boyfriend of a year cheated on me. I have no idea what to do. I love him so much.

 

Can a relationship survive this??

[fixing]

Hi. So sorry to hear this. Right now, you will be in shock. Tell us more though, like you have been very vague right now.

 

But take it from me. Its over. His disgusting, selfish act has just ended your relationship. You will never forget or forgive this, and why the hell should you? He did not give a toss about you or your feelings when he cheated. So clearly he is not the guy you once thought.

 

Once a cheater, ALWAYS A CHEATER. 99% Fact honey.

 

Sorry for your pain.

[Surething1999]

Hi. So sorry to hear this. Right now, you will be in shock. Tell us more though, like you have been very vague right now.

 

But take it from me. Its over. His disgusting, selfish act has just ended your relationship. You will never forget or forgive this, and why the hell should you? He did not give a toss about you or your feelings when he cheated. So clearly he is not the guy you once thought.

 

Once a cheater, ALWAYS A CHEATER. 99% Fact honey.

 

Sorry for your pain.

 

Together a year. This apparently ended 3 months ago. I had no idea. The other girl told me. He tried to deny it at first, but when I gave him details she told me, he confessed. This other girl says he's reached back out to her recently. She's angry too.

 

He says he will do anything, absolutely anything, to make us work. He sounds genuine. He is really, really upset. Says it was a one time mistake, but she said they slept togther a lot and for months. During the time she said it was happening, we did take a break for about a month (his idea). According to her though, it was occurring quite awhile before and after the break.

 

Do you really think there is no way we can work through this?

[fixing]

Mark my words. There is no way back. He's a cheater through and through. Sorry for your loss honey. But he is a scammer, a liar, a cheater, he has done it before and he will do it again. I know you in denial right now, but this sob tried to lie his way out of this.

Seriously, he has done the most unforgiveable thing to you. Its broken, un repairable.

 

Take it from me, i had my heart crushed. Year and a half wasted. He is scum. Kick him to the curb.

[Surething1999]

Mark my words. There is no way back. He's a cheater through and through. Sorry for your loss honey. But he is a scammer, a liar, a cheater, he has done it before and he will do it again. I know you in denial right now, but this sob tried to lie his way out of this.

Seriously, he has done the most unforgiveable thing to you. Its broken, un repairable.

 

Take it from me, i had my heart crushed. Year and a half wasted. He is scum. Kick him to the curb.

 

Thanks Fixing. Your advice means a lot, even of it isn't what I want to hear.

 

Does anyone have a story about someone cheating on them, but their relationship working out in the long run?

[Robbyrob]

I seriously think I am having a panic or anxiety attack. I feel like I cannot breathe. I just found out that my boyfriend of a year cheated on me. I have no idea what to do. I love him so much.

 

Can a relationship survive this??

 

 

Screw him!!!

He will want to come back to you or youll end up havign sex again. Please dont! Also in a couple of months he will apologize to you in order to feel less guilty. Delete him on Facebook, his phone number and remove all items. Believe me, this is a hard but the best healing process you can imagine. I know you love him and you want him to come back but please dont.

 

Once you are over him you will laugh at him and look at all these posts.

 

Ibe been through all of this and you will feel so much stronger than him afterwards, you will truly enjoy it believe me!!!

[d0nnivain]

Some people can get past this but most can't. First you need to figure out what is the truth: was this a one time thing or did they have an on-going relationship? If it was once, I suppose you could try but if this was a relationship, I wouldn't even bother.

 

I understand that you love him & that he's saying all the right things now: he wants to make it work & he'll do anything, etc. However, the fact that you took a "break" from your relationship at his insistence tells me by his actions that he's looking for things you can't give him.

 

Whether you break up now or later after much more drama & heartbreak, I don't see this relationship moving forward in a healthy way for you.

[LadyM]

Lots of cheaters are given second chances and it mostly doesn't work out. Do you want to waste a chunk of time out of your life to give a cheater a second chance? Not just a cheater, but a man who did not want to be with you for a month? Will you ever even be able to trust this man again?

 

Is this a worthwhile investment of your most precious commodity - your time, your life?

[Fangorn]

My girlfriend cheated on me about 2 years into our relationship but I was so sure it was a one time mistake and that we were deeply in love.

 

Joke that turned out to be, she recently cheated on me again then left to 'find herself'. Find herself into other people's beds I guess. Anyway, it's never worth it, I wasted my university years on a girl I thought I loved even after she cheated and it turns out that is the biggest regret of my relationship.

 

So no, cheating kills a relationship, no matter how hard you try to work at it. That person made their bed, let them sleep in it.

[stillafool]

I seriously think I am having a panic or anxiety attack. I feel like I cannot breathe. I just found out that my boyfriend of a year cheated on me. I have no idea what to do. I love him so much.

 

Can a relationship survive this??

 

What did he say when you confronted him about this?

[Zahara]

If he cheated once, made a serious error in judgment and then came forward remorsefully admitting to making that mistake, I can see you wanting to work it out with him.

 

But this guy did it more than once, and even when you confronted him, he denied it until you provided proof. And he never came forward with this information. Even worse, he recently reached out to her again.

 

You can go back to him. Trust me, all you will be doing is teaching him that cheating is tolerated. A really crap deal for you because from now on moving forward, you will always keep looking over your shoulder with paranoia.

 

This is no way to live. You love him so much, unfortunately he doesn't because not once was he thinking about you when he was banging up on another woman. Get smart.