Ex contacts me I want her back but I am in a new relationship?

[Chris591]

Me and my ex girlfriend of 2 years broke up 2 months ago.

 

I guess i was a force dumper when we broke up since she's been acting cold and distance like she doesn't care anymore before I end it's like she's just waiting for me to do it since she doesn't wanna do it.

 

After a week when we broke up I told her I do love her and I wanted to work things out between us. She then rejected me and said she wanted to be by her own and doesn't want any relationship and doesn't wanna go on anymore..

 

So during this past 2 months we are No Contact She started contacting me few days ago via Email... Her number is blocked and I removed her in facebook so only in email she can contact... We are long distance at the moment as I move backed to US when we broke up. She is in Europe.

 

I recently have a new girlfriend. Nothing really serious with this new girl but I think my ex know I have a new gf probably our common friends told her..

 

I want my ex back but How do I approach this situation?? Do I respond? Do I end first with the new girl??

[Grumpybutfun]

Chris:

I suppose the answer would depend on why you broke up in the first place...if you broke up with her, remind yourself of why and see if there is still a longing for that girl or if you are just missing the familiarity of her.

Best,

Grumps

[rosedl]

Be careful.

 

It is common for people to have regrets and get jealous when they hear that there ex is seeing another person.

 

Why do you want her back?

 

You have to be super honest with yourself. Did you have a good relationship over all? Were you good friends? There was a reason that you broke up. Are the differences core between you or something that could be repaired?

 

And, why does she want you back? Is she just finding it too hard to be single and meeting new people and you are her fall back guy? Or, does she truly love you and realize that she made a mistake?

 

Go slow. You don't have to jump right back in. Feel it out.

 

And, cut the other girl loose if you are going to reengage with your ex. Honesty is kind in these situations. And, be sure you are okay letting this knew girl go, she shouldn't be viewed as your fall back girl anymore then you want to be viewed as your exs fall back guy.

[Chris591]

Thank you all for responding. I appreciate the advice

 

We both had a great relationship and we really do love each other.

 

I guess stress with her career affect our relationship at the end.

 

I broke it off cause I think she stop caring and her stress is affecting our relationship really bad.

 

To the point that I think she loves her career more than me and she wanted a way out.. I told her I didn't want to end the relationship but I think it's the best for us.

 

She didn't fight for it. She cried but agreed with me.

 

I know that I am wrong breaking up with her without communicating what's really on her mind..I should have communicate with her before ending it but I didn't..

 

The thing is I don't know why she is contacting me now It could be for many reasons.

 

I didn't want to talk to my ex if she only wants to be friends and just wanted to keep in touch..

 

I also know that is very wrong to talk to my ex if I'm in a new relationship but I'm confuse as I don't want to end the new relationship till I know what my ex wants..

 

I know it's very selfish and wrong sorry guys and thanks for listening.

 

 

 

Errr.. yes! Don't monkey swing, that's cruel to the girl that you're dating. If you want your ex back, take the risk and dump you current girlfriend. You can't hang onto your current one, making her second best, while you dither over whether to get your ex back.

 

Pick one.

 

 

 

Chris:

I suppose the answer would depend on why you broke up in the first place...if you broke up with her, remind yourself of why and see if there is still a longing for that girl or if you are just missing the familiarity of her.

Best,

Grumps

 

 

 

Be careful.

 

It is common for people to have regrets and get jealous when they hear that there ex is seeing another person.

 

Why do you want her back?

 

You have to be super honest with yourself. Did you have a good relationship over all? Were you good friends? There was a reason that you broke up. Are the differences core between you or something that could be repaired?

 

And, why does she want you back? Is she just finding it too hard to be single and meeting new people and you are her fall back guy? Or, does she truly love you and realize that she made a mistake?

 

Go slow. You don't have to jump right back in. Feel it out.

 

And, cut the other girl loose if you are going to reengage with your ex. Honesty is kind in these situations. And, be sure you are okay letting this knew girl go, she shouldn't be viewed as your fall back girl anymore then you want to be viewed as your exs fall back guy.