Nick L Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I honestly just need to be cheered up right now. My girlfriend and I...okay ex girlfriend, always bicker and fight. I love her to death but I'm tired of fighting. She said that she needed a break after our latest fight. She said she needs to talk to other people and be herself, I'm a freshman in college and she's a junior in high school, we've dated for 2 years and I'm in love. I can let go of her, but is it time? Since the beginning of the school year I've felt depressed and distanced from her. We don't see eachother often and she is always getting new guy friends and they are just "friends" but you know how that is. I have a hard time trusting her. Things were great for awhile, we have had our sour moments but always pulled through, this time it's bad, I feel sick to my stomach. I think she has feelings for one of her "friends", I don't know what to do, is she doing it to make me jealous? I'm so sad, I can't eat. I know I shouldn't be posting about the half makes women like I do on twitter but I'm desperate to make her jealous. I just need advice, is it time to move on? And if it is, how do I do it?
fixing Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Well going by the only information you have provided. I think YES, you gotta cut her off and move on man. She said she wants a 'break'? Well, thats never a good thing mate. And if you suspect she likes someone else then she probably does (Unless your being extremely jealous and paranoid) So, you should start to date woman yourself, begin no contact with her. But dont get into stupid jealousy games with her, they are pointless and immature and non productive. If you really do love her and want her back, the only thing you can do is give her what she wants, Space. That doesnt mean you put your life on hold though, your free, go and date and have fun, maybe then, she will get jealous for real and come running back. NO CONTACT NOW THOUGH
Author Nick L Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 It's so hard to cut her off. But you are right, it needs to be done. Thanks for the advice!
fixing Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I know man, its very hard. But you cant do it half assed either. Seriously, just disappear from her life, no more facebook, twitter, NADA! I know you still love her. But you gotta go out now and date more woman, have fun. She will have nothing but respect for you when she realises your life does not revolve around her. You never know, she might come banging down the door after you completely disappear from her life. Good luck
Author Nick L Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 I understand. I'm not interested in dating other woman though, I just want to be able to function throughout the day without the thought of not having her making me sick. I guess no contact is best, you lose feelings and begin to drift away, right?
fixing Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Exactly that yes. Its kinda like what an addict will go through. Cold turkey. Its very hard (depending on how long you were together) for the first few weeks/months, but those memories and feelings become less and less over time. You will be ok in the end. Trust me. As long as you stick to it. Theres no point trying to get over her if your going to be spying on her profiles or asking about her. You gotta go outa your way to avoid everything that is her.
Author Nick L Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 It's hard not to creep her, should I try right away? Or maybe ease into it? I hate when she post about her "friends" they both like her. It kills me inside but i would feel better if I didn't know about it.
fixing Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Yes right now. Creeping is the same as picking at a scap, every time you do, your wound (Heart in this case) is opened again. Unfriend her, and any other mutual friends that mean nothing to you. Do not look at her twitter, instagrams, facebook or any other sites. You gotta be dedicated to this otherwise you are in for a long drawn out world of hurt mate. Take back control starting from now. NO CONTACT is the way to go.
Author Nick L Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 Hmm makes sense, it'll def be hard but I can do it. Thank you so much, your advice was very helpful
fixing Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 No problem pal. And make no mistake, it will be hard, but thats the price we pay sometimes when we fall in love. You should really use this site to your advantage. If you feel lonely, or desperate, post here instead. And it also really helped me, to offer your own advice in other threads. Good luck for now, take back control and force her out of your thoughts.
Author Nick L Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 I just made an account today. I hope my success in getting through this will help and inspire others to know that it's okay.
fixing Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Perfect. And also, go searching through the forums. You will find many posts that are mirror images of your own situation. It really helps to read through theirs too. It is very comforting to see so many others have/currently are going through the same things
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