DaeJhaDeyonnia Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 I'm a student at a private Delaware college. I'm originally from Jersey. My...boyfriend, I guess you can call him that, is from Brooklyn. He's currently a student at DSU (which is around the corner from my campus). It's only been a month and a half since we've met. Our relationship progressed pretty fast. We're not "offically" together but we refer to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. For example, if we are out amongst a group of friends he'll introduce me as his girlfriend and vice versa. We have all the qualities of a relationship..except the title. Which is somewhat fine with me. We go on dates, talk all the time, and basically spend every single day together. If we're not in class, we're together. He, at one point, told me why we didn't have title. He said (and I quote) "When I broke up with my last girlfriend, I swore on my mother's life and promised my father that the next relationship I get in will be my last. I'm going to give that girl the world and marry her. I just want to make sure you're here for the right reasons. I already know I"m gonna end up with you." Perfectly understandable. We are on the same page basically. However, I think I'm falling for him...A lot harder than I could ever imagine. I know it's waaaaaay too early for me to feel as strong as I do about him. I know it's not love. It can't be. Can it? I"m only 18 and its only been a couple months. But we spend so much time together (almost 18 hours a day, the other 6 hours he's at work or we're in class) that I'm used to seeing him. He's literally all I think about. We're on winter break and we're in our hometowns right now. I've been crying all week simply because I miss him. What is making me feel this way? It's a really confusing situation to be in. I know I shouldn't feel the way I do and have tried to stop myself. I just can't.
todreaminblue Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 it can be love only you and him would know if it is.......deb
Sand Man Dan Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 If there's no title, that's indicative of how he sees you. If he wanted to marry you, he would be proud to call you his GF to everyone. If you're basically his GF, why aren't you "his girlfriend" ya know? What's causing the disconnect between what he sees you as and what he calls you? Answer:he's bullshi++ing you in some way. That story about him swearing that his next will be his last doesn't even make sense in relation to not calling you his GF. He basically wants to not have to lie to the girls at his college about having a GF. This comes in handy for his social media relationship status as well
Author DaeJhaDeyonnia Posted December 15, 2013 Author Posted December 15, 2013 If there's no title, that's indicative of how he sees you. If he wanted to marry you, he would be proud to call you his GF to everyone. If you're basically his GF, why aren't you "his girlfriend" ya know? What's causing the disconnect between what he sees you as and what he calls you? Answer:he's bullshi++ing you in some way. That story about him swearing that his next will be his last doesn't even make sense in relation to not calling you his GF. He basically wants to not have to lie to the girls at his college about having a GF. This comes in handy for his social media relationship status as well He does actually refer to me as his friends as his girlfriend. As far as social media goes, I'm all over it. Our pictures, my picture, etc. I doubt he's trying to hide me from anyone, if so, he's sucking at it. Lol. I've hung out with him on his campus plenty of times. And considering he lives in a coed dorm, his female friends are aware of me and our relationship. I doubt it's a matter of secrecy.
Author DaeJhaDeyonnia Posted December 15, 2013 Author Posted December 15, 2013 it can be love only you and him would know if it is.......deb That's the thing. I don't think either of us want it to be love yet. And I'm not sure if either of us know exactly what love is. Being as though neither of us have ever been in love. How would I know if it is or not. I'm young but I know don't want to get lust and infatuation confused with love.
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