crazybestie101 Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 In light of recent events, I've had a lot of thoughts about healing. I think that the process of healing is thought of as a linear progression, where things just slowly get better and better. But I think it's a process with setbacks and flashbacks and flashes forward. It's nonlinear, not something you can describe with data or even explain to yourself. It happens as it will, and that has to be okay. Allow yourself to be hurt one day and okay the next. When it comes to healing, there's no right way to do it, there's no "supposed to" or "not supposed to". And it's okay to be okay. I love you guys 2
Midwest Wtiter Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Wow, that is so true. I'm still a little fresh, and you're right, it's not linear. Some days just mean sitting on the couch crushed followed by two days of feeling pretty good, then a bad day. The no contact definitely helps. Blocked everything. For some reason, knowing that if he even tries to contact me I won't know helps a lot. I'll say this much, when that sinking depression feeling comes over me, nothing helps but a good cry. I can read all the advice about "just move on" but when you're in that awful moment, nothing helps. Being on this board and knowing that others feel the same way does help in "pulling out" of the funk. Plus, for me, focusing on the negative helps. I'm moping over a guy I was never "in love" with but was a lot of fun. I never expected it to go long term, and I think some of the hurt comes from the loss of ritual, the loss of good times with him. And of course, the fear of being alone. Hoping for a maximum of one bad day this week. Last week was 4, so far 2 good days.
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