Running in to friends of the ex

[organizedchaos]

Many often ask about the best way to handle yourself if you run in to your ex. What about their friends?

 

 

Say you're out and you come across someone who knows your ex. And they bring it up "sorry to hear what happened" or "what happened with you two?"

 

 

Now, them being a friend with the ex, more than likely, they know what happened. And anything you say will likely get back to the ex. And you don't want them to dig any further or tell you anything about the ex.

 

 

How do you typically handle situations like this?

[Diggums70]

I think it's pretty reasonable to stick with "Well, things didn't work out between us - what can I say?"

 

I've been having to consider questions like this as well, as we shared many, MANY friends. For me, it's important not to send out one single bit of what could be considered "juicy" info that might find its way back to her...just stand upright, be kind and don't let on a thing about the split, what I've been up to, what's going on, etc. Past is past and the rest is nobody's business but mine.

 

It sucks to have to ponder these things, doesn't it?

[kat1012]

I ran into a friend of my ex once, we've only talked for a few times while I was still in the relationship and the last time we talked was like 8 months ago. It wasnt awkward at all. We both didnt bring up the break up or my ex at all. We just caught up with each other's life.

 

But if they bring up the break up or ask what happened, I will just brush it off like "we broke up. It's fine" I am not gonna dwell into it, or ask them how is my ex doing. If they bring up updates of his life, I probably just smile politely, listen to what they are saying, act like I don't really care about him but happy he's doing okay. Basically just be civil and friendly, then things wont be awkward.

[crederer]

Best way to handle it is to not get into details, just say "that's the way she goes sometimes" change the subject and be your friendly self for the duration of the conversation.