Lovesrules21 Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 I met this girl awhile ago. Sweet as can be, and everything clicked. We dated for a little bit under a year and a half. She suddenly lost feelings. This has been over 4 months ago, and the only times I can get her out of my head has been when I have been playing sports. She's made it clear it's over. Something switched in her. I still feel this way about her that's incredible. I'm 17 and young, but I know I found my match. It feels right. Last night I went to a dance, and saw her there and she looked beautiful. I mean beautiful. It brought up a lot of feelings I've been hiding and I dreamed about her last night and woke up with terrible heartache, almost as bad as it was when we broke up. What advice does anyone have to why I am feeling this way, and what can I do about it? Thank you
deathandtaxes Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 It doesn't get any better the older you get. I'm 35 and met this amazing woman over this past Summer. We dated for about three months. It was great until it wasn't. She turned cold and eventually she dumped me. That was almost three months ago. I am still working hard trying to get over her. I bury myself in work. I recently joined a gym. I have been dating casually. I also finally went NC with her. There's no magic in getting over her. You just have to let her go. Distract yourself if you know you're going to start thinking about her. I feel for you man. I didn't think I would be having this much trouble getting over a lady.
Author Lovesrules21 Posted December 15, 2013 Author Posted December 15, 2013 It doesn't get any better the older you get. I'm 35 and met this amazing woman over this past Summer. We dated for about three months. It was great until it wasn't. She turned cold and eventually she dumped me. That was almost three months ago. I am still working hard trying to get over her. I bury myself in work. I recently joined a gym. I have been dating casually. I also finally went NC with her. There's no magic in getting over her. You just have to let her go. Distract yourself if you know you're going to start thinking about her. I feel for you man. I didn't think I would be having this much trouble getting over a lady. I get you. I know what we had was special. A year and half without sex, or anything like that. We are just that type of people. She got me and I got her in some way. Thanks for the help.
ponchsox Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Remember, you are in control your life. If she doesn't want to be with you, find someone else. Learn something from it to make you better. Adversity makes us better. 1
Simplysimon Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 At 17 I wouldn't worry there will me many more that hurt you and many more you hurt. It's life. As you get older it still hurts the same.
EnigmaWolf92 Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 I was in a very similar situation dated about year and a half 4 months or so BU with NC only thing I can really tell you is stay busy it hurts but by staying busy it keeps you grounded and focused on yourself.
StyleOnEm Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 What helped me tremendously is to start meeting/dating new girls. It doesn't have to lead to a relationship since you're not healed but most people casually date and it's no big deal. You have a big void right now (companionship) that you need to try to fill, otherwise if you decide to heal on your own, it could take much longer to get over your ex. Bottom line, you need to start creating memories with other people so the old memories can start to fade. Best of luck.
Am4Real Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 keep distracted...it goes away in time, believe me. Especially when you meet the next really great person...
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