Bishop556 Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 A month ago, my ex broke up with me. We had a very loving relationship, but I was experiencing depression and it took a toll on our relationship the last few weeks. So one day we had a fight, and I accidently raised a fist at her, but I stopped myself from hitting her. She broke up with me the next morning because I could be potentially abusive, completely not acknowledging that I have been very loving to her for the last year and a half. So, I was emotionally distraught and checked her tumblr. She posted messages talking about how she ****ed two guys, and is now probably going to start dating another man. For example, one her posts was "On a scale of 1 thru 10, how inappropriate would it be for me to bring someone home who I did the frick frack with in my mom's car." So, being the emotional wreck that I was, I asked her questions on her tumblr, she eventually caught on and stated that I was harassing her. One of these questions was "It seems that you are moving on very fast. Do you feel that having casual sex is just a distraction from reality?" She responded that she felt no shame in what she was doing. I feel like a complete utter idiot for doing this. I just felt so hurt. Over the course of the breakup, I apologized, walked to her house with a card and roses, wrote her a two page letter to show her who I really was. Nothing worked, all of it was in vain. I feel that I loved her more than she ever loved me. She is telling me that she is over me, and wants to see other people. If she got over me in a month, then she never loved me dearly. How can I recover from this? I am a great friend, lover, and human being, but I feel lost, hurt, and worthless in the back of my mind. I treated her so well, I loved her tenderly and with utter devotion. I helped her escape the pits of depression, but when I am experiencing issues, she does not wish to work through them. I know I'm venting, but I really would appreciate someone to talk to.
fixing Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 (edited) Hey man. First of all. Dont beat yourself up. You tried to make up to her with a letter and flowers, but she declined a reconciliation. That hurts. But, right now, you gotta delete her facebook, tumblr and all the other BS social sites. You need no contact. If she is posting publicly that she is having sex with other men so soon after, she really has no class. Its slutty behavour. She maybe and probably is posting those things to get back at you because she knows you will be looking. She sounds very immature to me. You dont want that shiite in your life m8. You raised your fist? Well, you didnt hit her so i doubt very much that that is the reason she ended it... It may have been coming for a while and she used that as an excuse. Look, you said it yourself, you were kind, caring and supportive to her? And she didnt reciprocate? Than imo, she is not even worthy of you or your love. Forget her mate, she rejected you? Your better than that! Dont waste anymore energy thinking about her. (I know thats easier said than done, but you do have control of your own thoughts) Seriously, start no contact and dont look at any of her stuff anymore. You will get through this sir. And you deserve a better woman anyways. Stay fit, socialise with friends, work hard and the right lady will come along. I promise. Keep posting here. Its great for getting things off your chest. Edited December 15, 2013 by fixing
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