trevian32ca Posted January 3, 2005 Posted January 3, 2005 I hate my fiancee's brother. He is such a phony, fake person, even though in the past we were good friends, every thing changed around a year ago. Her parents were on vacation, and we stayed at the house having an okay time. Then, he broke my printer, he destroyed it when I confronted him and ran away (I was not at the house when he left) When my fiancee's parents arrived from their holiday, there was no word of excuse, no apologies nothing. Then, this guy showed up again by the time we got engaged and everything was swept under the rug. Then, I decided that I was not going to visit them anymore. And I go to their place maybe once every two weeks, I pick up my fiancee every day, but I do not come in. I guess I am sick the way they treat him as if he was a 3 years old (and he is a 27 years old freeloader) and I am staying away because if he ever does something to me, I am going to kick his butt and I dont want to feel bad. I am hurt by her parents attitude of never coming and talking to me, even though they've been generous in the past, but we are not talking about material things, it is a matter of respect: I do not want them to walk over me, I am sending the message that I will not tolerate this type of attitude. The sad part, we are getting married soon, and I don't see thing going far with her family. Should I forgive and forget ? (I am not willing to do that, otherwise it will become a habit for them to mess up with me and my future family) or should I keep them at bay?
moimeme Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 Lose the damn attitude. Not everybody else in the world is perfect. Learn how to get on with the ones who aren't or you'll be mighty lonely.
Debster Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 I am sending the message that I will not tolerate this type of attitude. I disagree. You are sending them the message that you don't give a fuc* about their family. Lose the attitude. Learn to forgive.
JoL Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 It's not fair to dismiss and ignore the entire family because of ONE person. It's going to look badly on you. Get your act together, if you dont like the brother, then just ignore him and ask him not to use your belongings..bring up the issue of the printer if it makes you feel better. But this WILL make you look bad (and no doubt it already has)..you're going to marry into this family, you need to start acting like it.
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