BigRis3r Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Hi, I have been chasing this girl for 5 months. 3 months ago, I asked her out and she gently refused. Just last week, I asked her out again and she accepted to go out with me for dinner. I found out from a mutual friend that she knows I like her from the start. She seemed excited about the outing as she replied almost immediately and with lots of exclamation mark and emoticons. During the date, she seemed genuinely happy and was really responsive and talkative. She also asked me a lot of questions and brought my around the mall telling me things that she likes. She even asked me to join her with some events in church, which seems like she wants me to be with her. However, there are some things that I don't understand. She kept talking about other guys that she dated whom she has no interest in. Why would she do that? And also, during the date, she would lead me to the subway station and then ask me what I would like to do. Was that a sign that she wanted to leave? After the date, she texted me to tell me that she got home and we texted a little. She seemed happy, but a few days later, her texts seemed to have became cold. What is she thinking? Was she going out with me to give me a chance or to reject me?
incelveteran Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 GOLDDIGGER ALERT Man, this girl has so many red flags about her. Where do I start. In essence, she knows you want and are chasing her, and : Hi, I have been chasing this girl for 5 months.I'd say she has gathered that impression. I found out from a mutual friend that she knows I like her from the start. While this can be good, it can also be a bad, bad thing. She also asked me a lot of questions and brought my around the mall telling me things that she likes*CRINGES* She kept talking about other guys that she dated whom she has no interest in.Can I spell Gold-digger out again? She has dated guys she has no interest in? Hmm, for what purpose I wonder? ...to be continued.
Poppyolive Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Yup, shes got you in a nice place for herself...you'll get hurt. One date and you are hurt. My advise lay low... Bigtime! Stop chasing her, texting, calling... See how quickly she'll wonder why you haven't.... Then you got her in a nice place. I'm in no way suggesting playing games..but you need to take care, Thread carefully. Let her know its not all about her. Good luck 1
incelveteran Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Poppyolive has some good words above. Especially but you need to take care, Thread carefully Indeed, tread carefully. This girl knows you like/chased her, correct? Just a warning; she can and will try to use that against you, should you indicate your intention to cease contact.
Vogeltron Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 You can tell me if I am wrong. But based on what you have described this girl is in her early 20's. Likely she does not give a crap about you based on your description. She is kicking tires to see what she can find is best for her. I don't blame her lots of women look for the one who has the most cash. That is why you see 25 year old women end up with 40 year olds. It happens, when you are in your early 20's you don't want to hear it but it is a fact of life. Hot young early 20 year olds can get away with much more than they can when they get older. They do have an expiration date. Sorry to generalize but it seems like most women begin to fall off about 24-25 even if they don't have kids. It is what it is.
Author BigRis3r Posted December 15, 2013 Author Posted December 15, 2013 the behaviors she's exhibiting are not red flags. they are the explanation for her initial 'gentle refusal'. the clues here are in no way subtle: she straight up told you she dates men she has no interest in. geez, if only all the shallow jerks in the dating world were so obvious. if you can't figure this one out, you may not be ready for dating. j You are referring to those signs as trying to reject me right? I already got the message from the date. But what I don't get is why did she agree to go out with me when she had rejected my initial proposal of going out? If she refused to go out with me the 2nd time, I would have gotten the message clearer and won't feel so hurt. Her agreeing to go out with me just gave me false hopes.... And it hurts even more...
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