energizer Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 (edited) My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 months now and everything seems to be fine until the last couple of days. We haven't been texting much for the past few days and I feel that she has been acting distant. We met up two days ago and she told me that we have been texting each other too much (we used to text everyday throughout and everything was fine) and she feels that I am needy which makes her feel restricted. Then she suddenly told me that she has been thinking alot for the past few days and is now unsure of us because we are moving too fast. She also did mentioned something along the line like she doesnt want me to affect my personal goals just because of her. So i asked her how she felt about me currently and she said that she still likes me but she is unsure if its really love. And I told her that I really really do cherish this a lot and dont wish give this up so easily. I said that y not give each other some time to think about it and work this out together and she agreed. I havent been texting for the past day but i am really saddened and broken hearted by what she said but I really cherish her alot. Any advice? =( Edited December 15, 2013 by energizer
incelveteran Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Then she suddenly told me that she has been thinking alot for the past few days and is now unsure of us because we are moving too fast. She also did mentioned something along the line like she doesnt want me to affect my personal goals just because of her. Sounds much like a polite "I'm not into you" translation. This files in a similar basket as:"You're a nice guy and all, but..." and even the very "polite": "Don't worry, one day you will find a nice girl".(cringe)
napy666 Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Agreed she isn't as into you as she use to be. Up to you on what you want to do here. Try talking to her more opening I guess?
Author energizer Posted December 15, 2013 Author Posted December 15, 2013 i dont know man to be honest i feel that she is intending to break up with me...but i am giving her all the space she wants for the time being
Joaquin Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 I would hit the preemptive break up button. Or at the least pull back such that she has a chance to see what she is missing. Overall though I would say this is heading for the rocks as she is clearly emotionally detaching from u. 1
Joaquin Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 I would hit the preemptive break up button. Or at the least pull back such that she has a chance to see what she is missing. Overall though I would say this is heading for the rocks as she is clearly detaching from u.
Iguanna Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 The advise would be, do yourself a favor and don't stick with people who aren't enthusiastic about being with you or close to you. There are other people out there who would be really happy and crazy to be with you. Don't stick with half - solutions when you can have the whole. She is obviously NOT that into you. Why would you chase this more while you see she is not the one to really love you?
somedude81 Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 It doesn't sound like things are going down the right path. It's never a good thing when a girl suddenly tells you that she's been thinking a lot about the relationship. That's what my GF of six months told me the day she broke up with me. She also mentioned thinking that she won't ever fall in love with me. Though she never said that I was too needy. She still suddenly dropped me without giving me any clue that something was wrong. At least your GF is willing to talk to you about this while you are still together. Maybe you can work things out. Though it may already be too late.
Dallers Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 I would hit the preemptive break up button. Or at the least pull back such that she has a chance to see what she is missing. Overall though I would say this is heading for the rocks as she is clearly emotionally detaching from u. It is as though my twin is speaking. Break up before she gets the chance, seems childish and immature right? Wrong. It will hit her where it hurts because it is unexpected and leave her in doubt if she thinks she has you wrapped round her little finger or is saying those things to gain hand. If not, you have taken control and chosen to move on. With no regrets. Either way it is closure for you.
soccerrprp Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 She's distancing herself from you. Tell her that you see that and you'll give her space. Go NC. This relationship is on its last leg it would seem.
Sand Man Dan Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 I would hit the preemptive break up button. Or at the least pull back such that she has a chance to see what she is missing. Overall though I would say this is heading for the rocks as she is clearly detaching from u. Absolutely 100%. Just drop her she's not what you're looking for. Even if it hurts, you'll have that psychological advantage and you'll feel good later that you made the healthy initiative, even if it wasn't comfortable. The best decisions are often the hardest. 1
crederer Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Give her what she wants, don't contact her. It may make her realise she made a mistake, it may not, but trying to get her back only works if you messed up in some way. If you didn't do anything directly to piss her off, there's nothing you can do but back out and wait for her reaction. Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
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