21 and never gone on a real date?

[atdevel]

Hi, I am 21, recently graduated from college, and never kissed. Here's why.

 

I always liked to read and play computer games as a kid. I was bad at sports and never fit in, so I was overweight. I have Asperger's, which also caused coordination problems. Additionally, my family is pretty strict, especially about education.

 

I didn't hang out with anyone until I was 10 as a result. I was so strange that I didn't fit in with most nerds in high school, and this sounds strange, but they actually treated me worse than the popular kids as a group. I did have a couple male friends though. My favorite classes were math and physics, because back then, it seemed that there was always a "right answer", which offered some stability in my life.

 

I picked electrical engineering in college, because I believed that there was a "right answer" to the problems. I was to be proved wrong however. As a result, my classes grew harder, to the point where I was unable to do anything else. Another reason I probably picked electrical engineering was because I was so afraid to meet people because of all the rejection I faced I would use excessive studying as an excuse. However, most engineers, even the high-GPA ones, still had time to party and make friends, so I used it as an bad excuse.

 

I thought the few girls in my engineering classes would be interested in me, but they only liked the bad boys. One even humiliatingly rejected me because I was too nerdy!!!!!! (I thought that there was no way that would happen with a girl in engineering.)

 

I only discovered alcohol at 19. Like I said, all my parents ever do is work, so I never was aware of this stuff. I found that it was easier to meet girls that way, but I only made out with them, and the people that I would go partying out with stopped inviting me because I wasn't interesting enough.

 

I feel like I'm so behind, and I don't know where to start. Even most engineering students I know partied a lot, and I was shielded from partying my whole life, so I never made the social connections freshman year and couldn't make them after.

[incelveteran]

Hi, I am 21, recently graduated from college, and never kissed

 

And this concerns you why?

 

Just curious, why do people base things off how many gfs/AND bfs they have had or what age they first kissed?

[incelveteran]

Many girls have awakened to the fact that the high school heartthrob is most likely going to turn out to be a dick who won't amount to much in life.

And yet still go for those type to end up complaining later.

 

While the guys with brains will be the ones who end up successful and happy.

Now THIS is truth and wise words.

[Eivuwan]

I think what is important that you receive treatment for your autism. Otherwise it is going to be very hard for you to learn social skills on your own.

[fortyninethousand322]

First of all at 21 you're still fine. You're heading into the "not fine" age range, but you still have a little while to go. You're still at the age where some (many?) girls might find it cute that you're inexperienced.

 

Just get out there and socialize. Enjoy life. Take up the saxophone or volunteer work. Whatever. You'll be fine if you do that...

[Targetlock]

Well I'm 27 and only been on 2 dates, and personally think it is about the quality not the quantity of dates that matters, or that is what i tell myself anyway.