derfsangel Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 It's a bittersweet day. It's been 3.5 months since our break-up...but he had left me 3 times before that during our 18 month courtship over trivialities. He had a wicked temper and was emotionally abusive when angry. Once he calmed down, he became sweet as pie again and would beg to have me back. The last time, I broke it off. He got angry at me because I calmly asked him if we could change the TV channel. He became enraged, told me he was sick of my sh*t. I didn't say a word... but packed his things and watched him leave. Yeah...he's mentally unstable for sure and definitely no good for me. Since our break-up, he first disconnected his phone, his FB account and took off with the car he had given me. He knew I was having major surgery the following week... and I didn't get so much as a "get well" card during my 9 week recovery process. I was devastated, in pain, in despair and mostly in disbelief. Just as I had recovered, he resurfaced. He visited my mom's place crying, sent a weird Purolator letter then emailed me a long, desperate letter telling me how much he loves me and cannot move forward. I'm still so angry. I did NOT respond and have no intention of doing so. I deserve so much better than him. I let him move in with me, didn't ask him for a cent, remodeled my house because we had planned to sell it and buy a "us" house. I bought new furniture which he was supposed to pay 1/2 of...never saw a cent. Yeah, I'm bitter... hence the bittersweet day. On the one hand, I'm lucky to have noticed the "real" him before we married. But I'm down 10s of thousands of dollars and had to remortgage my house because of this fiasco. Sorry for the vent. I feel better already just letting all out. I'm getting better little by little...but will be especially glad when this Christmas season is over and I can start a fresh 2014 as a very single, very attractive, great catch!!!
valerasoy Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 You go girl! He sounds very toxic indeed. I can't offer much but my own condolences for the pain you've experienced. All you can hope for is the new year; I think most people are looking forward to the new year. Good luck in life. I hope you find someone special and worth marrying for life.
JDPT Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 You have absolutely made the right decision. He sounds like an emotional rollercoaster waiting to crash. Additionally, I believe you have a strong fundamental concept as to what it is you need to do to propel yourself forward after this eye opening experience. You have found a good place here, keep posting. 1
Haydn Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 He sounds like my ex. I want to turn over the channel. Argument for 4 hours for no reason and i always ended up defending myself for what? He sounds like a lunatic. You are well out of it. Keep going. Haydn 1
Author derfsangel Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 Thank you so much for your encouragement, guys. I'm a VERY private person and most of my colleagues and friends know very little about our split causes. I'm very embarrassed because I kept taking him back after reg flags and fits of rage started to surface, I just kept it to myself. He even subjected my 16 year old son to one of his flare-ups one night when he started packing his stuff at night while I was sleeping... I still don't know, to this day, what prompted that major fit. I'm perplexed. But I shouldn't have taken him back and still did. He promised massive changes, came back to me with a luxury car as a gift which I initially refused. We got engaged shortly thereafter. I'm so dumb!! It's so nice to have a forum like this one to finally be able to let it all out..... makes me feel so much lighter, emotionally. Now, I just need to get through this depression but I'm fighting it day by day and getting stronger... 2
Haydn Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 He did that to your son? Really you are best off without this devil. He thinks he can buy you. No darling he cannot. You are doing the right thing. Dont date evil, i learned the hard way and so have you. keep posting when you feel like reaching out to him. I will reply and so will many others. Your doing great! Haydn. Thank you so much for your encouragement, guys. I'm a VERY private person and most of my colleagues and friends know very little about our split causes. I'm very embarrassed because I kept taking him back after reg flags and fits of rage started to surface, I just kept it to myself. He even subjected my 16 year old son to one of his flare-ups one night when he started packing his stuff at night while I was sleeping... I still don't know, to this day, what prompted that major fit. I'm perplexed. But I shouldn't have taken him back and still did. He promised massive changes, came back to me with a luxury car as a gift which I initially refused. We got engaged shortly thereafter. I'm so dumb!! It's so nice to have a forum like this one to finally be able to let it all out..... makes me feel so much lighter, emotionally. Now, I just need to get through this depression but I'm fighting it day by day and getting stronger... 1
purplesoccer34 Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Good for you You deserved to get out of that mess. I can't believe he couldn't even see you when you were getting surgery. You deserve way better. I know how hard it is to break away from someone even when you know that they're no good for you, but you did it. 2
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