Vince78 Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Especially if you've you ruined some form of your reputation. Happened to me a few years back, I called my ex up after a very drunken night and made a complete ass out of myself, said some stuff that you can’t take back; unfortunately she had me on speaker, so her whole family heard the tirade. Whenever I’m reminded of her, that feeling of humiliation comes over me and I start rehashing the incident, what I said, did, or didn't say or do. I hate the fact that I ruined this perception that she and her family had of me. I even get anxiety thinking I might run into them, since we live fairly close. I did what I could by apologizing to her afterwards and not calling her again. It’s a real pain though. Have any of you people been through something similar, and how did you get over it or lessen it? Thanks in advance.
amaysngrace Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Whenever I use to get lost in a bad memory I'd make myself stop. I figure that you can't change the past and nobody is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. Besides, at least you have learned something from your mistake. There are lots of people in this world who keep making the same mistake over and over again. I'd give myself a break if I were you. Thinking about that night won't change it at all. It happened. It's over. Let it go.
todreaminblue Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 it can make me extremely depressed, that's why i tend to stay away from things or people that might humiliate me or embarass.....over all ...i end up dealing with it by self reflection...and self punishment..deb
2fargone Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 I suppose it's a self-esteem issue. I don't have that problem. I'm human, I make mistakes. I don't need to correct them, I should just not repeat them. 3
TaraMaiden Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 I suppose it's a self-esteem issue. I don't have that problem. I'm human, I make mistakes. I don't need to correct them, I should just not repeat them. Spot on, absolutely. 1
JDPT Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 I've learned to accept my mistakes and all the "silly" things I did in desperation when I wasn't all there "mentally". The last thing you want to do is ruminate over them, simply internalize them and accept them as part of you. We all make mistakes, we all make the right decisions, consistency is what we strive for. We can't win them all, we can only try, keep pushing.
Dumped85 Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 I hate the memories of my last week with her, how I was sleeping.And I realize now she wanted to mess around. Thats my embarrasment. And then there's the begging during and after the break up.
esteem-jam Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 I dont think you ever get over them. I think whats important is... you distance from the people invovled. But you do the typhical righteous things to get over them. When you are healed 85 % of those events, the person involved comes and asks for earnest apology how that situation went. Thats when you get your 100 % and your sigh. (Note it will not happen when you are hot blooded and still fresh from those events. I am talking years later.) Thats how I see that.
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