Mr me to Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 How do the dads out there cope with the thought of not only your woman being around a new man but your children being around him also? Tried to get back on track with no contact today, but she has just rang saying kids miss me and want to stay over... Told her this wasn't possible as I'm in the process of moving and there's no room at my mums... The horrible bitch said she is going to tell the children I don't want them... I fear me not having them tonight will result in her having her new bf there with children. It's so ****ed up. I haven't got over the seperation and I know my children who are only 4 and 5 haven't... Seems like I can't do right for doing wrong. My ex knows how to manipulate me into feeling so guilty. I can't believe this woman is always going to be part of my life...
JDPT Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 That's a terrible thing to do. Use your own kids as collateral to accomplish whatever the hell you want. I don't have any kids but this is what I'll probably do if I was in your shoes. I would if possible take them out to dinner or a movie tonight and have a quick chat with them and tell them that you are currently in the process of getting a nice place for them so that you guys can spend time together in the future at this new place. Keep a positive attitude towards all of this and as you already know, your kids are priority.
Haydn Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 I was in your situation but my the mother of my child was very nice and we have a good relationship. You just have to accept that the kids will see their mums boyfriend, thats how it works. My ex has a partner and i have no problem with my daughter staying with them. Once you get past the anger and hate stage and bitterness you will improve. When you meet your ex only deal about the children, not her. Keep as much distance as you can. Ignore her nastiness she is not likely to tell the kids you dont to see them, unless she wants to damage the kids and if that is the case then thats something you need to consult a lawyer about. But stay away from her as much as possible and push all efforts in being a great and loving Dad. Take care. 1
crederer Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Wow, what a woman. Hurt her kids to hurt you. All I can say is be thankful this new guy is going to be taking up her time and you can find someone better. As for the feeling of him being around the kids, as long as he's a good dude, shouldn't worry about it too much. It's really about what's best for the kids at this point. I don't know the back story, how long you've been seperated or how long this guy's been around, though....
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