irc333 Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 THere's this woman I know....had known her for about a full year. Well, I had been to some events and she's a good friend to a friend of mine actually. We've been in touch online about getting together as a group (mind you, I only think of her has a friend and nothing more). She would sometimes make plans with us, and cancel at the last minute. SOmetimes they are legit an she would show up to events. and so on. I kind of purposely lost touch with her due to her just being wishy washy with her plans, she's been kind of a hermit lately, but only attends events at the last minute. Anyhow, I hadn't heard from her in a while, and she heard through word of mouth of my father's passing....she sent me a message and offering her her condolences, it kind of gotten the ball rolling again and we Facebooked back and forth and talkeda bout certain TV shows we've been watching lately. She said she actually comes to my area to do Mtn Biking or other activities and said that when she's in town, that she'd be in touch about getting together when she's here. I asked for her phone #, but she never gave it to me, just threw up a smoke screen with some kind of other response Recently, I had asked her what she had going on this weekend...and said last night that she went to my area and saw the Christmas lights on display in the area...and I said to her, "WEll, I was home, you could've notified me...I was waiting and accounted for,lol" No response from her on that answer. I dont know why she continues to stay in touch, makes it look like we're getting together when she's in town...then throws it in my face that she IS In town, but neglected to contat me about it?
HokeyReligions Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Another reason not to have friends. Never count on, depend on, seek support from anyone but yourself. Its oh so much easier.
carhill Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 About the only thing I count on these days is the sun coming up and the cat waking me up a couple hours before that to eat. Other than that, life is much simpler if expectations are filed in the not relevant bin. I give friends what I want when I want how I want and appreciate their existence for what it is, when it is and how it is. If zero, that's OK.
valerasoy Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 People will always disappoint you, including ourselves. No matter who they are no one is immune from hurting people. I understand where you're both coming from. You probably are both older than I am, but I know the feeling of having unreliable friends. I hardly have any now. But, I see it this way. If I'm willing to be a friend for someone, there has to be others out there too. It takes hard work, but all things worth while usually take hard work. Hey, maybe I'm speaking out of ignorance and sound really naive right now. But I don't think one should give up on people because of a few bad experiences. Man was not meant to be alone, and I personally feel people who say they don't need anyone are doing so out of fear. And that always ends in misery. As for the OP, this woman sounds very strange. If I were you, I would stop making plans with her all together, or expecting anything. Some people just don't like committing to friendships or relationships for whatever reason.
Author irc333 Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 Man was not meant to be alone, and I personally feel people who say they don't need anyone are doing so out of fear. And that always ends in misery. Funny you mentioned this, though this is more of a "dating site" situation, ties into this post. This woman on POF, I met her and she's local and has "hang out" as part of her what she's looking for. She's kind of the "Hippy" variety...not religious, and considers herself a "loner". Says shes' fine with being alone. Then I asked, "Then why are you on POF?" and she says, "Wellll...it would be nice to meet someone". Kind of back peddle comment. As for the OP, this woman sounds very strange. If I were you, I would stop making plans with her all together, or expecting anything. Some people just don't like committing to friendships or relationships for whatever reason. Yeah, it's funny, let's say a woman "friendzone's" you, it's a moot situation, because she won't make plans with you even as a friend.
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