MoroccoMole Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 It's been about 4 months since I ended an almost 2yr relationship and I'm still hurting badly, made worse by things like Facebook, Instagram blah blah blah. Seeing that my ex is now involved with someone else after what I thought is a pretty short time after such a long meaningful relationship, how does one avoid torturing oneself and feeling horrible after seeing this constantly? I stay as busy as I know how going to the gym, hanging out with friends but it seems to be to no avail. My first and only love and now I have to see here with someone else on a daily basis =(( How do other people deal with something like this in a practical and effective way?
HokeyReligions Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 You are doing it to yourself. People do exist and are quite happy and fulfilled without all the social media crap. Log out. Cancel memberships. Dont look at that tripe. 3
na49 Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Block her? that's how people deal with it in a practical and effective way.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 blah blah blah. On the bright side, yours is the best Loveshack nickname I've seen around here in years!!! "Go get'em, Morocco!!" 1
mendsley Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 My suggestion? Get the hell off all that $hit! Most of the people on that crap is losing touch with reality. I promise it would be a serious mind**** to the ex if you drop off all of it! Time to get off that and start healing up. 2
organizedchaos Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 (edited) It's been about 4 months since I ended an almost 2yr relationship and I'm still hurting badly, made worse by things like Facebook, Instagram blah blah blah. Seeing that my ex is now involved with someone else after what I thought is a pretty short time after such a long meaningful relationship, how does one avoid torturing oneself and feeling horrible after seeing this constantly? I stay as busy as I know how going to the gym, hanging out with friends but it seems to be to no avail. My first and only love and now I have to see here with someone else on a daily basis =(( How do other people deal with something like this in a practical and effective way? Why does it bother you so much that your ex is seemingly moved on? You dumped them for a reason, no? If you didn't want to be with them, then why did you end it? Edited December 15, 2013 by organizedchaos 1
freebird31 Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Block her. Block her. Block her. Unless you want to torture yourself and continue to feel like $hit then block her. Or get off social media. I blocked my ex from FB. On instGram if you block them I've noticed you can still see their profile they just can't see yours. To prevent any temptation of me looking him up I deleted my IG altogether. It's just Instagram 1
TaraMaiden Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 No - you - are torturing you. Nobody's holding a gun to your head and forcing you to check up on a person you broke it off with in the first place. She's moved on. You really should, too. 3
Author MoroccoMole Posted December 15, 2013 Author Posted December 15, 2013 Thank you all for the replies, you're all 100% correct. It's just insanely difficult and almost surreal having to stomach the loss of my best friend and the only girl I've ever loved. Thanks for the tough love everyone ^__^
Author MoroccoMole Posted December 15, 2013 Author Posted December 15, 2013 And I actually did block her on EVERYTHING a long time ago, but we both had each other's passwords to everything when we were together and I still remember them all unfortunately -__- so resisting the temptation is the name of the game really, it's just all around very difficult as this is my first breakup. womp womp
Author MoroccoMole Posted December 15, 2013 Author Posted December 15, 2013 Why does it bother you so much that your ex is seemingly moved on? You dumped them for a reason, no? If you didn't want to be with them, then why did you end it? I ended our relationship because towards the end she just stopped caring and even trying. I was right to end it I wasn't going to be happy with her in the long run. It's the loss of this person from my life completely more than being single that bothers me and it bothers me that she's moved on because right now I couldn't fathom seeing someone just a couple of months after loving someone deeply. It still hurts, regardless if the relationship wasn't perfect.
LifeWithoutMiMi Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I am in a similar situation as yours, and FB is really slowing my healing process. My ex gf has dated someone else within a month after the breakup, and there was a period where I kept checking on her FB. As other people said, we should really stop checking on FB. I suggest you set yourself little goals, such as not logging FB for a month. Keep yourself busy during this period. Once this goal is reached, you may get a habit of not checking FB anymore, and you may want to tell yourself to not check FB for another 3 months, and so on. I'm sure you will feel better by then, and soon the feelings towards her will be gone. All the best for us! 1
Author MoroccoMole Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 I am in a similar situation as yours, and FB is really slowing my healing process. My ex gf has dated someone else within a month after the breakup, and there was a period where I kept checking on her FB. As other people said, we should really stop checking on FB. I suggest you set yourself little goals, such as not logging FB for a month. Keep yourself busy during this period. Once this goal is reached, you may get a habit of not checking FB anymore, and you may want to tell yourself to not check FB for another 3 months, and so on. I'm sure you will feel better by then, and soon the feelings towards her will be gone. All the best for us! My favorite post here. Thank you for the sound advice, it's nice to know someone can relate and I'm not TOTALLY crazy haha wish you all the best!! 2
LifeWithoutMiMi Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 My favorite post here. Thank you for the sound advice, it's nice to know someone can relate and I'm not TOTALLY crazy haha wish you all the best!! Thank you!! In fact, today would have been exactly our 3yrs together (I am at 4.5 months post breakup now). I have been down for a few hours today, but I keep reminding myself that I need to get rid of the negatives, and I must keep moving forward. Obsession is our biggest enemy. If we are meant to be, we will be. We must love ourselves first and feel good about ourselves. This way, we will become attractive again so that we can find our true happiness, whether it's our ex or a new person.
AnyaNova Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I ended our relationship because towards the end she just stopped caring and even trying. I was right to end it I wasn't going to be happy with her in the long run. It's the loss of this person from my life completely more than being single that bothers me and it bothers me that she's moved on because right now I couldn't fathom seeing someone just a couple of months after loving someone deeply. It still hurts, regardless if the relationship wasn't perfect. Ah. Now I understand. because she forced you into the role of dumper, because she herself was too cowardly to do it, technically the roles really are reversed. She essentially dumped you when she stopped trying. And you are the dumpee. I am sorry. Being a dumpee really sucks. Oddly enough I am 35, and finding myself the dumpee for only the second time in my entire life. There is someone out there for you. Take the time to mourn this loss, and move on to what awaits in the future.
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