Do some women avoid men altogether in general?

[irc333]

I was wondering, there were a couple of "Geeky" girls in my Meetup groups of the "Nerd and Geeky" variety. Some of the strategy board gaming groups are some of the events they have some are cosplayers or big in dressing up and going to conventions.

 

I noticed this one that attend events, I had known her for some time at these locations, but she's been cordial but rather stand offish if I were to ask any questions outside of what we're doing at the actual event. Like what other hobbies she has, movie interests, etc. Sometimes it's pulling teeth.

 

She's hardly a regular attendee at these events and I happened to schedule a Meetup for a Comic Convention only to see her show up by herself, we happened to bump into each other, but I didn't think she wanted me hanging out with her browsing the convention booths.

 

I did get her # if she wanted to join me and some people of our group to an after convention restaurant, but when I texted her...she said she was tired and didn't feel like going.

 

About a week later, I contacted her about another gaming event in the area, but she was non responsive and has been non-responsive ever sense.

 

Thing is, I think she avoids men in general or even just avoids getting to personal with people in general....she only pops up on the radar on rare occasions.

 

What's kind of baffling though, since it is rare to find people over 30 into such a niche' group..... you'd think the drive to socialize would amplify?

 

There was this other woman that recently had moved to this location from the north...was getting settled in and joined the same group. Not only she is into wearing costumes.... but also is in the same field of work through another site we've both been on for years (freelancing web site community).

 

She joined Meetup, but told me that she hasn't had the money or would always back out of it at the last minute, get a cold or something.

 

Anyhow, though she desires to be social, she refuses to be social able. Perhaps they should join some kind of Social Anxiety Meetup? I am aware of some of these groups.

[scorpiogirl]

They don't want to socialise with you. Doesn't mean they have any anxiety.

[odin673]

They don't want to socialise with you. Doesn't mean they have any anxiety.

 

This could be true but not necessarily. There are quite a few people that are socially inept. It doesn't matter in the end. If she's not into you, or avoiding men in general you're not going to get anywhere.

[regine_phalange]

Hmmm.... I'm kinda introverted and many times I do avoid going out because I want to do other things or because the company does not inspire me. Maybe they are not interested. Don't look into it too much, the world is full of women!

[crederer]

I have a friend who I believe is asexual. Girls hit on him quite a bit in his cirvle(he's also into a bit of a niche group, albeit a different one). He never talks about girls, and acts completely aloof when girls are blatantly hitting on him. He also has a lack of manners, but I've known him a long time, it's not that he's an ass or anything he just is.....aloof.

 

I've talked to a few people about it. I think he has aspergers.

 

Any ways, it could be these reasons or a variety of others. But she's not going to go anywhere with you, so no need to worry about it.

[irc333]

Yeah...Asexual is a good word for it. Been hard at trying to find the right words to describe behaviors lately. Good call.

 

Yeah, I used to kind of wonder about men that don't react to the typical, "Hey, check out that hottie walkin' by....*nudge, nudge*, while 3 men look there would be a guy that wouldn't...sometimes changing the subject of the conversation.

 

I think also "Sexually Ambivalent" is another word(s)

 

I have a friend who I believe is asexual. Girls hit on him quite a bit in his cirvle(he's also into a bit of a niche group, albeit a different one). He never talks about girls, and acts completely aloof when girls are blatantly hitting on him. He also has a lack of manners, but I've known him a long time, it's not that he's an ass or anything he just is.....aloof.

 

I've talked to a few people about it. I think he has aspergers.

 

Any ways, it could be these reasons or a variety of others. But she's not going to go anywhere with you, so no need to worry about it.

[M30USA]

I have a friend who I believe is asexual. Girls hit on him quite a bit in his cirvle(he's also into a bit of a niche group, albeit a different one). He never talks about girls, and acts completely aloof when girls are blatantly hitting on him. He also has a lack of manners, but I've known him a long time, it's not that he's an ass or anything he just is.....aloof.

 

I've talked to a few people about it. I think he has aspergers.

 

Any ways, it could be these reasons or a variety of others. But she's not going to go anywhere with you, so no need to worry about it.

 

Isaac Newton died a virgin.

[HokeyReligions]

I avoided them for years. Then I started started dating because it shut my mother and sister up. I had a couple of semi serious relationships but I got out of them. I really never planned on getting married. Frankly I didn't think anyone would ask me. I'm too competitive with men and lack any natural femininity - or so I thought. Sometimes that girly stuff just happens danm it. Lol. I had to work and take care of my mother and the family since I was in grade school. I guess its good I learned how to be mother and father, housekeeper and breadwinner at an early age because without planning it I met my husband. I knew from the first date that we would marry. I guess I failed at avoidance. Sigh.

[mario_C]

Isaac Newton died a virgin.

Benny Hill too. Sad.

[FrankieFrank]

Benny Hill too. Sad.

 

Then again, he frequently took women out on dates, just never made advances.

 

That's still quite a bit better than some guys.