Shashasha Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Hello everyone!!! So i met a guy through a night out. I give him my number and he messages me asking to meet pcer the next few weeks. He comes across as a player to me as he was very touchy that day. I reject him a few times and he does not give up. I finally meet him on thursday - i gad too much to drink and i was a mess - we made out and all that but he was surprisingly nice. He dint take advantage of me of any sort and looked after me well. So he texts me saying he wants to meet today at his place. I am a virgin btw - i have done everything except dor penetration. So we are talking about a friend and he just says i can never date a virgin. I obviously look really insulted and said thats sad that he cant. We make out again and just as he is about to get naked, i tell him i am a virgin. He looks very surprised and says things like he is really surprised because i dont seem like one. He also seems a bit disappointed? I know he really just wants me for playin around because he was honest enough to admit that he has sex almost every week with different girls. Anyway, we end up having oral sex and after he finishes off, he says he cant believe i am a birgin because i am so amazing at it. He kinda begs me once to have anal sex woth him but i tefused. HE looks more disappointed but doesnt force more. We get dinner together and he doesnt feel as touchy anymore. I know for sure he prolly will never call or text again. Although he did mention when i went off that we will see each other again. Whatever it is, I had a great time! I hope i dont get secretly sad if he doesnt call anymore. He s not my kind of guy, but i liked how he Has fun and he was sexy! Should i let him know i had a good time? ALL this while, he has been texting me taking the initiative to meet up. Help!
d0nnivain Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 You are playing with fire. You better understand that before you keep going out with him. Because you find him attractive & he is a guy who primarily wants sex, I foresee you having too much to drink around him & giving in then coming back here crying because he "took advantage of you." I'm telling you now, be smart about this guy & don't put yourself in more situations where he can take advantage of you. I don't think he would go so far as to date rape you but I see lots of potential for a dub-con situation. 4
Author Shashasha Posted December 15, 2013 Author Posted December 15, 2013 You are playing with fire. You better understand that before you keep going out with him. Because you find him attractive & he is a guy who primarily wants sex, I foresee you having too much to drink around him & giving in then coming back here crying because he "took advantage of you." I'm telling you now, be smart about this guy & don't put yourself in more situations where he can take advantage of you. I don't think he would go so far as to date rape you but I see lots of potential for a dub-con situation. Yep, this is definitely true! I really doubt he is going to ask me out again but yeah if he ever does, I will be careful!! Thanks for that reminder
Author Shashasha Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 I cant stop thinking about him!!! He has gotten me all horny from our date and I am so tempted to have sex with him. Should I text him? He hasnt texted since saturday
Robbyrob Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I cant stop thinking about him!!! He has gotten me all horny from our date and I am so tempted to have sex with him. Should I text him? He hasnt texted since saturday Text him for sure...there is nothing to lose. If he wont reply to you, then you know where you stand. Good luck
d0nnivain Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I cant stop thinking about him!!! He has gotten me all horny from our date and I am so tempted to have sex with him. Should I text him? He hasnt texted since saturday If you want to have sex for the 1st time with a man who doesn't love you, go ahead. Think long & hard before you do this. How will you feel about this decision years from now? When you are older & you have a daughter if you do this, what will you tell her about how you lost your virginity? 1
PegNosePete Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 When you are older & you have a daughter if you do this, what will you tell her about how you lost your virginity? Oh man if my mum started to tell me about that i would probably put my fingers in my ears and say LALALALALALALALA 2
Author Shashasha Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 Text him for sure...there is nothing to lose. If he wont reply to you, then you know where you stand. Good luck What should I say? I dont know whether it is really a good idea - he sleeps around ALOT.
Author Shashasha Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 If you want to have sex for the 1st time with a man who doesn't love you, go ahead. Think long & hard before you do this. How will you feel about this decision years from now? When you are older & you have a daughter if you do this, what will you tell her about how you lost your virginity? I know i will regret this - but part of me just wants to have fun with him. I am sexually frustrated and been feeling a little grumy the whole day.
Debanked Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 Why would you want to give up your virginity to a player who sleeps around a lot and will probably use you and dump you??? 2
felicity1 Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I know i will regret this - but part of me just wants to have fun with him. I am sexually frustrated and been feeling a little grumy the whole day. Shashasha, if you respect yourself you won't do it. You know he's a player, he doesn't love you, he's manipulated you. Don't let him treat you like a puppet. 1
Author Shashasha Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 Why would you want to give up your virginity to a player who sleeps around a lot and will probably use you and dump you??? Yep. I needed this. I would NEVER want that. I will try to control my desires then. Thanks 2
Author Shashasha Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 Shashasha, if you respect yourself you won't do it. You know he's a player, he doesn't love you, he's manipulated you. Don't let him treat you like a puppet. Yep, I wont. I wouldnt say he manipulated me - i was equally willing to have some fun with him. But yes - if he reaches out again - i will be careful. Its so tough being horny! 1
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