haha1985 Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Hey! Very long winded.... I went on a first date a few days ago with this girl and it went amazingly well. We ended up kissing a few times, lots of her touching me etc and more importantly the conversation flowed from the moment we met until about 8 hours later when it ended. As first dates go, it was awesome. At the end of the night, she texted me saying what a great night she had. So, I asked her out this weekend and she couldn't as she was busy but suggested one night next week. I just said yeah sure that is totally fine and to let me know. She then replied '' Or I might make you wait a few weeks... play the game and all that x ''... to which I replied that I would be long gone!! ( in a joking way ) and she said how it wasn't very nice to say that...To which I replied that '' You cant be too nice.... you wont be interested then... x ) ... She then said about how '' Keen and interested is good.... BUT not keen and not interested is bad... treating us mean is such a myth! '' So I said '' Ok well I really enjoyed your company and your cute so how about we do Monday/Tuesday next week?'' to which she said ‘’ see you can be nice!! x ‘’ and then agreed, depending on what her shift is at work. So - We text about 3/4 times per day. I'm not one of these guys who text '' what you up to '' OR bombards her with questions and/or texts. No way. HOWEVER, she does not ask me anything during texts. When we are texting, she will reply to what I ask and then add in details of her day but does not ask me anything about my day, or anything else. So a perfect example of this was yesterday evening. I replied to one of her texts ( again, one that didnt contain any questions ) saying that I could not wait to finish work after the week I have had and to get some beer! I also said that I hope she has a good night out tonight. She then replied saying that she could not wait to get some drinks either and mentioned where she was going and who with..... she didnt ask me about where I was going, with whom, my plans for the weekend....NOTHING. So I didnt reply.... Then about 20 mins later I get a text saying that she ‘’ still could not believe we have the same birthday ‘’ ( Which we do – same year as well, weird! ) So... I find it a little confusing....On the one hand she had a ' great time ' with me and has agreed to come out again... and text's me twice in a row... tells me about her day...flirt's a little.... what she is up to and all that..... BUT on the other hand she does nothing to advance the conversation by asking what I am doing or what I am up to or any personal questions..... which usually means she is not interested. Why would she agree to come out again though? She asked lots during the date? Is she not interested and being polite? Is she interested but being really cool? Please - I know I over analyse and I know it only has been one date. haha, im a woman in that respect!!! And to repeat - I am not clingy or anything of the sort... I keep it pretty damn chilled and keep this stuff to myself BUT have said that I enjoyed her company and made it clear I would like to hang out with her again. Should I text her today or wait for her to text?
Dallers Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 To be able to play the game you must be very very good at it. You have to be able to appear real so that she believes you are not messing her around so that you seem to her just too good to be true which makes her want you more. You admitted to her that you intend to play games according to your second paragraph??. She clearly likes you but by knowing this will distance herself. Not only that you go from telling her you are going to play hard to get and then telling her how much you like and miss her. Mixed signals much? She must be confused out of her mind. Simply you are thinking way too much into this and it should be all about her not about you so do not assume she should be asking about everything you are doing as girls do not do that. Early on should be a honeymoon period, you do not need to discuss in great depth about your day just the odd chit chat between meets to keep her thinking about you and gradually let things happen. As a guy if a girl did to me what you are doing to to her I would be annoyed and would quickly distance myself and leave the premises even if I liked you. You mention that you are "not that way" "not clingy" and you claim you are pretty damn chilled. You come across as completely the opposite my friend, as do most who have to confirm they are something they are not when clearly they are. You need to relax. Do not be as relaxed as me, but relax
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