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well yesterday i was so angry filled with pain but today im feeling way better. i am thankful for the ppl who answered me and this really helps.

thank you honeybun11 because after your words now i realize i had a breakthrough.

its really strange how my feeling changed over night. i was so hurt yesterday and now im feeling great. this only indicates that our feeling are not parasites that eating our brain. they'r just feeling we can control them.

i'v been asking myself questions. was i born the day i met her? NO. was i happy before meeting her? YES. i'm still the same person? same skills, same appearance, same friend's?? YES!!. so why im letting her control me?? really BULL****.

tonight i thought about the role we took during our relationship. and i found out i was the independent one in this relationship. i affected her life in many aspects. because of me she has changed her work to a better job. because of me she started attending college. because of me she fixed some family issues she had. i even made her take care of her health after she was ignoring it.

for god's sake i was the one who took the lead. i was the one who affected her and she didn't cause any change in my life. she needed me, she cudnt do anything without asking me first. why im acting like i need her now??

i have come to conclusion. we must find the difference between loving someone and needing them. remember yourself before meeting them and try to get those days back.

now im gonna focus on my self . do what i do best. get the old me back cuz only that made me happy and it will affect my future relationships and give me back my confidence.

 

those thoughts gave me a breakthrough. at least for now im sure it will change in the next few hours. but i feel good at the moment. i think its unfair not to share it with you guys. just do a reflection and u'll know you worth more.

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tonight i thought about the role we took during our relationship. and i found out i was the independent one in this relationship. i affected her life in many aspects. because of me she has changed her work to a better job. because of me she started attending college. because of me she fixed some family issues she had. i even made her take care of her health after she was ignoring it.

 

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IWM:

Sounds like you are a positive and helpful boyfriend and some girl in the future will be lucky to have you. Each experience we have in life is just a stepping stone to where we want to go. She was just a stepping stone, as hard as that is to accept now because your pain is great. One day you will find someone who contributes to your life as much as you contribute to hers and you will wonder why you found exes to be so very important when they so obviously weren't the right ones for you. Always propel yourself forwards and know that your worth and your value lies within you, not in anyone else.

You get to choose how you handle pain and break-ups. It hurts but it doesn't have to debilitate you. Living in angst is way more fun in music, poetry and movies than in real life.....

Good luck,

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