headstillspinning Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I don't think you read through my thread, it was started about a month ago. It is quite long, so I don't blame you for not reading. But, I am working to get out of my marriage. I know when MM say that, OW calls BS. But, I am not talking about 6 months or a year. I have a list of things I need to do. I have gotten two started already and am working through them. I also am busy with work, so I can't just drop everything and do it immediately. I am looking at a 3 to 4 month timeline. And I agree this is not a dress rehearsal. And we only get one shot. And I am no spring chicken. So, there you go. My apologies. Your post to me sounded like you were still contemplating what path to choose. I wish you all the best whether you end up with OW or not. In the end, you will be happier getting out of an unhappy situation. Been there and done that. 1
Author ZMM Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 Then with that, maybe you should go to counseling and figure out what you want and go from there. To live your life with one foot out the door is not healthy or good for you, your wife and family. As for your OW, good for her to stand up for herself and not give you the soft landing that many MM expect of their OW's once they do leave. I hope you find the courage and strength to finally make a decision, whether it be full on trying hard to reconnect with your wife and make your marriage good again, or if you divorce. I am not worried about being alone. I do everything for myself as it is. I have plenty of friends and plenty of activities and if I weren't married I would do a lot more things that I can't do now. Yes, as far as OW goes, she is doing all the right things. And we haven't been really involved for over 8 months. And our A was very minimal, compared with the ones on here. I'm not saying there aren't feelings there, but we have not had the intense meetups and such. And we have been very good at keeping it platonic. No sex talk allowed. LOL
Author ZMM Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 My apologies. Your post to me sounded like you were still contemplating what path to choose. I wish you all the best whether you end up with OW or not. In the end, you will be happier getting out of an unhappy situation. Been there and done that. No apology necessary. On my original post, I was contemplating, but that was from over a month ago. Since, then I have done a lot of work on myself and figured out what I wanted for ME. Thanks for the reply.
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