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Guys,

 

If you meet a girl that you're totally nuts about from the start, do you text them in the morning?

 

If a girl is on your mind, do you text her?

 

My boyfriend texts at least once a day, he initiates if I don't and I let him initiate the first texts always

 

...except once out of two weeks or so, I have been the one to text "goodnight", and he swiftly responded with a "goodnight munchkinn xx"

 

Otherwise, he has always said goodnight first, without me having to initiate it.

 

He has ALWAYS initiated the first text every day, bar once or twice out of 3 weeks since first meeting.

 

He texted me a lot initially, as in he would initiate texts and text a few in a row. So, not only initiate, but sent MANY texts in a row, about 3 - 4 long and thoughtful texts which HE initiated...

 

He has lessened the texting but he does sent double or triple texts occasionally, although it is fairly even keeled, with him sending one and me responding with one, and so on and so fourth....

 

He invited me to his 30th birthday to meet about 10 - 15 of his good friend, as well as both sets of parents and his siblings. Mind you, his birthday is next weekend on the 21st; he only asked me after date one.

 

He doesn't text me in the morning, and he initiates the first text later and later in the day.

 

 

 

Yesterday it was about 4 when he first texted. Today, it is 5 and no text.

 

 

 

I am pretty sure he will text me later and I will be quiet surprised he he does not initiate ANY texts.

 

 

 

Is this a sign that he is not that into me? He says he had a great feeling about me from the moment we met, and he has not felt this strongly about any previous partner/lover.

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Please help?

 

I am happy as long as the guy initiates a text at least once a day.

 

I think he will text me later. IF he does not initiate a text all day, he will most certainly text tomorrow.

 

The thing is - that is not good enough for me and it is probably a sign of what is to come.

 

I believe if a guy is NUTS about you, he will text by about lunch time, right? And initiate a text not too late in the day; EVERY day.

 

 

 

PLEASE tell me if I am sadly mistaken? Do guys who are crazy about a girl wait all day and all night just to initiate a text?

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Oh and he knows I had heat stroke last night and wasn't in the best way.

 

He IS extremely forgetful, as he suffered a near death brain injury at age 19, and while he is not mentally slow and he is totally normal and intelligent as any other guy without the injury, he DOES have a shocking memory... Very shocking.

 

I just know that MOST men who are crazy about a girl would text her the following day if he knew she wasn't feeling too hot, to check up on her :(:(

 

I think this guy was really interested in me initially but that passion has obviously died down from his part. If he was head over heels for me he would not wait all day and night to text me.

 

If he was nuts for me he would have texted today to see how I am.

 

Mind you, when I had an ex FWB harass me, he would often say he worried for my safety and worried about me.

 

He managed to remember that....

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If I am interested, I surely will,but I also like the girl to initiate also. I don't like to feel like I am tied to a string.

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Honestly, he may be waiting later and later to text to see if you will text him first. If you never text first, he's probably starting to wonder if you're really interested in him.

 

I seriously don't get this whole thing where girls feel like the guy always has to text first. A lot of guys don't text unless they have something specific to say/ask. If you want a conversation, then don't be afraid to text him first once in awhile...

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I initiate 95% of texts to my GF. But, I am starting to think that I may be a bugging her, because she rarely initiates a text. So, I may start texting less. Something to think about. I also - have done the longer texts and a couple in a row and then just get one back or a short one. Makes me think?

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If you are feeling this way, then why cant you text him. He's not a mind reader and this is ONE day, give him a break. He could be busy, he could have phone issues, he could be having a bad day. Are you looking for an excuse to end this?

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Thanks so much guys. This guy seemed really into me initially, so naturally I noticed when he takes longer and longer to initiate the first text of the day.

 

Yes he does initiate most days but I respond fast and I give him plenty of interest and make it known I am really falling for him.

 

Yesterday I initiated the first text of the day, and for the first time in our fledging relationship, at about 1 pm.

 

It was the first time I have ever initiated the first text.

 

He responded hours later. He had a nap in front of the TV.

 

Today he is waiting even later to text me.. It is 6 pm now. No text.

 

 

 

... The reason guys text first, I assume, is because if they are nuts for a girl then they have a urge desire to talk to them throughout the day, just to let the girl know they are thinking about them..

 

I could be wrong. Maybe some men, no matter HOW crazy they fall for a girl, like to maintain a constant dialogue; they prefer to not say much if they are have nothing riveting to say?

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If you are feeling this way, then why cant you text him. He's not a mind reader and this is ONE day, give him a break. He could be busy, he could have phone issues, he could be having a bad day. Are you looking for an excuse to end this?

 

 

 

Out of all the guys I have dated and been with, I instantly had a special feeling about him. He says he had a great feeling about me the moment he saw me.

 

I also looked over his shoulder at his phone once, and he had texted a few of his friends that he went on the best date of his life; with me. He told me numerous times it was the best date he had ever had and that he feels that it is so easy with me.

 

So no, I do not want to end it with him over this. I guess the last guy who was crazy about me (and who I did not reciprocate the feelings back towards), would text me EVERY MORNING.

 

I won't talk to him about this, I will just see how things go, and be open to the fact that not all men who are really into you will necessarily initiate texts early in the day..

 

I have SOME deal breakers, but not initiating a text until night time is not one of them.

 

 

 

All I need is for the guy to initiate ONE text a day, every day. If he doesn't, I find it reallllllly hard to believe he is all that into me.

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So if you skip breakfast one day a week does that mean you are not all that into having breakfast? Be Realistic.

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I know it seems silly, but you should talk about it with him. I find that it actually works after you both have a lengthy conversation.

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How long have you guys been seeing each other again?

 

Out of all that time for how long was he texting you all the time, and for how long has it been that his initializing text has not been steady?

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I don't think he is that into me. Although when we first met I could tell he was genuinely wrapped. I saw the texts to his mates saying I was the best date he had EVER had (his words).

He invited me to meet his family and closest friends after date one.

He initiated the relationship status on facebook talk a few days after date one and initiated the "lets take our profiles down" chat after date one.

 

I think he was initially into me, but he has, for whatever reason, changed his mind. But will keep with me because he is really attracted to me and likes me somewhat.

He is probably not self aware enough to even realise that he is not all that into me. He probably thinks he "really likes me":lmao:

 

In the end, I need a guy who is crazy about me and who falls HARD for me. I will soon know for sure if there is NO chance of this guy being THAT guy, that I need.

 

And no I am not high maintenance normally; I do not need a guy to spend ALL his time with me, and I WANT a guy to have his friends and hobbies and alone time that he cherishes, outside of our relationship.

 

I just believe in waiting longer in order to find that true love, someone who is head over heels for you from the get go and knows right away that they are falling hard for you.

This guy did tell me that he had the strongest feeling about me from the moment he saw me, so I will not let him going a day and possibly nigh without texting, cause me to write him off.

 

If he goes more than ONE day and night without texting, and then goes TWO whole days without feeling the need to text me? Then I would find it hard to believe that I was on his mind, and I would proceed to tell him that and promptly dump him.

 

One text initiated by a guy per day is all I need. Even just one lovely goodnight text per day is great, and more than enough proof to tell me that he could be crazy about me.

 

 

 

...I am sure he will text later. If not, should I tell him how I feel about this?

 

OR, should I just wait until he texts me, then continue as usual, without telling him that I do not believe a guy who is that crazy about a girl would go that long without texting?

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How long have you guys been seeing each other again?

 

Out of all that time for how long was he texting you all the time, and for how long has it been that his initializing text has not been steady?

 

We started officially being bf and gf on the 3rd of this month.

 

We met for the first time on the... 29th or 28th of November?

 

He texted a lot initially, he initiated all the texts.

 

Yesterday I initiated the first text of the day for the first time since seeing each other for our first date.

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I know this is all horse sh*t!

 

It is only texting, I am just wanting to discus the matter.

 

It is nothing for me to worry about, I will find out sooner or later whether or not he is, in fact, as crazy about me as he seemed to be, through his actions.

 

I suspect his actions outside of texting will be a better indicator as to whether or not he is that into me ( or not...)

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I think you're spoiled by technology and putting too much emphasis on how often someone texts you. I text my girlfriend maybe..... once every two days. She texts me much more than I text her. I simply am not the needy type of man that needs a girl hanging onto me and telling me stuff every day and communicating with her more than I do myself. He sounds laid back and chill like me; or he's just busy...

 

If he invited you over to meet his family/siblings/parents, then I wouldn't say he's not interested. I wouldn't do that if I didn't like a girl, I wouldn't even tell her about the party, if I didn't like her, so I would assume that means he likes you.

 

I think you're spoiled by technology. He's the same age as me, I'm also 30.. We didn't get phones until we were about 17-18 years old, not 12-13 like kids do now days. We didn't learn to become dependent on them, like people now days. My GF plays 20 apps on her phone, talks on Facebook, she shares a damn link on her Facebook about once each two hours... I don't even have Facebook on my phone! That shows the difference in our texting and phone-use habits. Some people look at texts and all this phone use as dependent on their survival, while others just don't care... I could leave my phone on my desk for a week, and not miss anything in my personal life. If he's anything like me; he's just a normal guy not dependent on technology, with a girlfriend that is obsessed with her cell phone (like mine).

 

You're also reading too far into things. I would be thankful for what you have; a guy that is normal, that doesn't text you 200 times in one day about every little thing... "hey im at work, hey im in the bathroom, hey im thinking of you while i eat my bagel, hey im walking home, hey im home, hey where are you, hey what are you doing, hey, hey, hey"... Then you'd be on here "MY BF IS SO ANNOYING WITH TEXTS!" There's no medium. Just be thankful.

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Thanks so much for that last response ^^^

 

I am very willing to just go with how often HE feels like texting. If he only wants to text me every day or two, so be it.

 

The thing is; would he only initiate a text once every day or two with a girl he was NUTS about?

 

OR, has he just not initiated ANY texts today because he is just not all that nuts about ME?

 

Would he have initiated a much earlier text with a girl he was CRAZY about?

 

 

 

I am totally FINE if a guy is like YOU ^^^, and only seldom texts his girl, even if he is NUTS about her.

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The last guy texted me all day every day. He was madly in love with me unlike any other girl he had been with (he was crazy about his ex) but with me it was at a whole new level.. He is adamant he will never fall in love this hard again..

 

The thing is, the guy who have been the most nuts about me have texted me all day every day pretty much, with texts flowing throughout the day.

 

My ex who was not even in love with me and who cheated on me managed to initiate a text at least once a day if we were not together physically. And he was NOT nuts about me.

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WOW.

That is not a lot of time AT ALL.

You met him two weeks ago and started going out with him a week and a half ago??

I would say you are judging this one a bit too soon....you seem to have a lot of thoughts and energy regarding this situation just calm down a bit lol.

Not everyone is the same. He may have initially felt he needed to keep up a lot to make sure you knew he was interested and then later realized texting level did not need to continue that intensely. He might think he is bothering you. I'm a horrible texter. It does not matter how much I like a guy. When I receive a text if I dont know how to respond right away I will put my phone back in my pocket and sometimes just forget to respond. I would not want a guy to be judging me like this just because I did not text him all the time or I am not texting him as frequently as when we first met.

 

This guy is not your ex. Its okay to reasonably have your guard up at first but dont enter a self fulfilling prophecy. You are with him for a reason, dont start treating him like he is your ex-bf.

 

Besides.....this relationship is so new!! How he is acting right now is really not an indicator of much.

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texting sucks i thinkfi a guy is really into you he picks up the phone to hear your voice....to start his day with you on his mind a simple good morning have a wonderful day babe..and hopefully a few smiles shared to start it...thats my honest opinion....deb

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Did I read correctly that you pretty much NEVER initiate?

 

Maybe he wants to know you WANT to text him?

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I know it is all new, but he wanted to delete our dating profiles after date one and even thought about asking me on date one.

 

He texted his mates to tell them he had the best date of his life with me.

 

He invited me to meet his family and friends after date one.

 

When he last said goodbye to me, he texted a few minds after we parted ways, telling me he is almost in love with me.

 

He said he had a great feeling about me from the moment he met me.

 

 

....YET, he has not texted at all today.

 

 

I am not sure who he really is at this point. Maybe even if he was totally bonkers over a girl, he STILL wouldn't text her every day?

 

I guess I will find out shortly if he is all that into me...

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texting sucks i thinkfi a guy is really into you he picks up the phone to hear your voice....to start his day with you on his mind a simple good morning have a wonderful day babe..and hopefully a few smiles shared to start it...thats my honest opinion....deb

 

 

 

Deep down, I agree. If he was really into me, he would want to start his day with hearing my voice, or at least hearing FROM me, via text.

 

Yet then I think I am being silly, cos it is ONLY text messaging, it is NOT the be all or end all to a new relationship!

 

I mean, it is a flipping phone for crying out loud! Maybe he has nothing thrilling to report to me, since he only chatted to me last night!

 

On the other hand, I tend to think MOST men who are crazy about a girl would want to hear from them or text them every day.

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mmmkay,

 

He finally texted.

 

" hey sweetie, how are ya? Just at bro in law and sisters place having dinner party hope your good and kickin on. Miss u. Can't wait to see u soon. Till I see you next. Can't waitxx"

 

 

It took him until 7.30 to text me.

 

Perhaps he is the type to just touch base with me once per day?

 

I would be cool with that. But I need at least one text per day?!

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Deep down, I agree. If he was really into me, he would want to start his day with hearing my voice, or at least hearing FROM me, via text.

 

Yet then I think I am being silly, cos it is ONLY text messaging, it is NOT the be all or end all to a new relationship!

 

I mean, it is a flipping phone for crying out loud! Maybe he has nothing thrilling to report to me, since he only chatted to me last night!

 

On the other hand, I tend to think MOST men who are crazy about a girl would want to hear from them or text them every day.

 

 

 

i think once a day isnt a bad ask.......i think phones are open communication vehicles...i prefer voice recognition......once a day

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