Augustus64 Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Im going to ask you guys some questions that i already know the answer to. I really need to hear it from my peers as an affirmation. Im Struggling with letting go even though i know its what i have to do. would you want to get back together with someone that: -Faked a pregnancy to hurt you -Pushed you down a flight of steps -Reached for a knife during breakup -Broke into your home -Vandalized your car -Wished your mother death -hacked into your emails and facebook and even had your phone records sent to her -punched you in the face 5 yr relationship
notthathard Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 WTF.. she crazy? No chance, soooo many other proper ladies out there. This sounds like a scum of the earth.
Author Augustus64 Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 I keep telling myself she's not that bad. that Im to blame for this behavior since i did cheat on her but this behavior was spread out throughout the relationship and even after breakup it got nasty she hacked my fb for a year after BU. yea she was on some antipsychotics so she's a bit unbalanced.
2fargone Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 I gotta be honest with myself, so... 7 years ago that might have been a yes. But now... NO.
notthathard Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Time to change your thought process. I wouldn't hang around with anyone like that let alone make her my GF. What do you like about her? The sex must be good if she treats you that way lol.
Author Augustus64 Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 Ha yea sex was perfect she never told me no the most was not here. she was smart and sweet just ****ing nuts. she has been on her meds and getting therapy so i thought about trying again doing it the right way but she has a bf now so...
Meadowgreen Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 OH HELL NO. Run for the hills dude. This girl is a grade a nutbag. 1
KelC411 Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 No! Dn't do it. I am not even saying she is a terrible person, but she is clearly very mentally ill and will need to work on that with meds and in therapy for a LONG time before she is ready to be with anyone (if she ever really is). You sound very kind to be trying to justify her behavior, but just because she is mentally ill doesnt mean she is allowed to be abusive to you and treat you that way. Your well being needs to be a priority and that sounds like an abusive situation. 1
Poppyolive Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Did you do the breaking up or her? This sounds right messy. I do know if shes the dumpee the pain can be unbearable. I know for me I had crazy thoughts, imagine scenarios, never did anything and wouldn't but anger and pain can certainly dip you into crazy thoughts. I was able to laugh at them, breathe and truck along. Now, take someone that acts on those thoughts like your lady, she is not in a healthy place, you need to protect yourself and she needs lots of space. She did pretty hurtful things to you, dangerous, damaging & disrespectful. I'm sorry to hear that. Take care of your heart and yourself.
Author Augustus64 Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 Yes she was the dumpee. the pain she felt had to be unbearable to the point were she acted on her thoughts i dont really understand what goes on in her head. i started seeing a girl not seriously just a few months after the breakup and she found out about her through hacking my fb. the girl sent me some illicit photographs. my ex hacked her email and sent those photos to the girls dad to scare her away from me. Is this normal green eyed woman behavior? it was a five yr relationship i thought it was because i mattered sooo much to her and she wasn't ready to lose me. She was very disrespectful and at times i reciprocated this but not to her extent. she once sent me 125 text msgs during a petty fight then proceeded to break into my dorm after i ignored them. She was taking some medication Geodon anyone familiar w this medication? she tried to conceal this from me but i found the pill bottle one day.
crederer Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 (edited) Sounds familiar. Most of those things happened to me over the course of a 5 year relationship as well. I know the good times seem good, and the incidents SEEM few and far between, but no one should treat another person that way. It was difficult for me to leave but it was for the best. If she was like my ex, she has abandonment issues and was raised in a home where these types of behaviours were accepted. Edited December 14, 2013 by crederer
Author Augustus64 Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 Yes she has abandonment issues. she would do things to push me away to test me then say things like "everyone leaves me and i know your going to do it too". the good times were so good. thats what has me stuck. As i said before she has a bf now how did you become indifferent? thats what i want
crederer Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Yeah man your story is almost exact same as mine. She is likely not capable of changing her ways long term. At least not with years of therapy (which my ex refused to do). This will be something you have to live with forever if you choose to stay with her.
Author Augustus64 Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 I always held out hope she could change. i couldn't put up with this instability long term no way. have kids, raise a family w this person she could make my life miserable.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 I would have left the first time any of that happened. But that's just me.
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