Haven't talked to my x in years saw her facebook recently

[xztjohn]

Me and my ex broke up 2 or 3 years ago, to some up all the bull**** she pretty much left me for another guy and it hurt me alot, when I was finally over her thats when she wanted me back but I choice to have no contact. I blocked her from all my social media and have not responded to any of her advances to try to contact me. Its been about 2 or 3 years now, the latest one was when she tried to text me saying if we could study together because she haven't really studied for this class (i think it was a ploy to get me to talk to her because that was my last class before I was done with college). I told her it would not be a good idea but to text me any questoins and I will do my best to answer. In my mind I always knew the guy that she left me for was a loser and was no good and that they would break up, however I checked her facebook recently to see how she is doing through another account and saw that she is now with a different guy. My heart sank a bit, I have been doing great and I don't think about her too much, but after seeing her get with another guy I feel kinda bad because I haven't been so lucky in the love department. I recently checked her facebook again due to curiosity and growing interest and she has a picture of the both of them on her profile on facebook. I feel sad since me and her haven't talked in so long and she would always call me through unknown, spy on my social media, and sometimes text me with her real number but they have all just been ignored. I have stayed true with no contact and have kept strong, not contacting her, but I still check up on her facebook out of curiosity every once in awhile to see how shes doing. Part of me wants to talk to her and see how shes doing (probably now because I see she is with a new guy and I feel sad). I am feeling weak with no contact and want to contact her to see how shes doing but I figure that it would be shut down now that she is with this new guy and I haven't received any unknown calls or anything anymore now that she is with this guy. Anyone have any advice for me?

[drallafi]

Me and my ex broke up 2 or 3 years ago, to some up all the bull**** she pretty much left me for another guy and it hurt me alot, when I was finally over her thats when she wanted me back but I choice to have no contact. I blocked her from all my social media and have not responded to any of her advances to try to contact me. Its been about 2 or 3 years now, the latest one was when she tried to text me saying if we could study together because she haven't really studied for this class (i think it was a ploy to get me to talk to her because that was my last class before I was done with college). I told her it would not be a good idea but to text me any questoins and I will do my best to answer. In my mind I always knew the guy that she left me for was a loser and was no good and that they would break up, however I checked her facebook recently to see how she is doing through another account and saw that she is now with a different guy. My heart sank a bit, I have been doing great and I don't think about her too much, but after seeing her get with another guy I feel kinda bad because I haven't been so lucky in the love department. I recently checked her facebook again due to curiosity and growing interest and she has a picture of the both of them on her profile on facebook. I feel sad since me and her haven't talked in so long and she would always call me through unknown, spy on my social media, and sometimes text me with her real number but they have all just been ignored. I have stayed true with no contact and have kept strong, not contacting her, but I still check up on her facebook out of curiosity every once in awhile to see how shes doing. Part of me wants to talk to her and see how shes doing (probably now because I see she is with a new guy and I feel sad). I am feeling weak with no contact and want to contact her to see how shes doing but I figure that it would be shut down now that she is with this new guy and I haven't received any unknown calls or anything anymore now that she is with this guy. Anyone have any advice for me?

 

 

Advice? My man it's been 3 years. You've already gotten through the hard part. Don't worry about love it'll come when the time is right.

[xztjohn]

i know it has been awhile, but she was a big part of my life and I felt like we were really good friends. I care for her and want to know how she is doing :/. I guess cause my life hasn't been so great lately and I haven't found love so I feel sad and want to talk to her. Anyone have experience on talking to an old ex? was it a good idea or bad idea?

[StyleOnEm]

You don't really care how she's doing - you're more interested in getting an ego boost from her since she seems to be doing better at moving on.

 

In other words, she is doing just fine with her current boyfriend.

[xztjohn]

i actually do care how she is doing, i remember i sent her a text before I left for college without any motivation just wishing her the best with her future goals in life like going in the medical field and stuff, but got no response :/. But then right before I leave for college she sends me a text saying how she wanted to study together which is probably a way to find closure for her.

[smuggy95]

i had a friend who didn't speak to her ex for 5 years. she called him and she was right back at square one.

if knowing she's with someone makes you not feel good, why do you want to expose more of yourself to those bad feelings?

do you think you'll feel better?

[xztjohn]

true, i miss our bond and friendship, she was one of my best friends. It is so much easier for a girl to find a guy. I remember we made a promise that if anything bad happened in our life (family member dying etc..) , we get 1 call to each other