Silly_Girl Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 I guess it's never a question of wether it's the first, second or third marriage. I don't agree. Because I agree with this.... It's ok to fail in a first marriage. But you should learn from your mistakes and grow to be a better and stronger person. I think second marriages *should* be better and more successful. It's not always the case though, I acknowledge that.
2.50 a gallon Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 They say the divorce rate for second marriages is higher. I keep hearing that but it is not something that I have observed, in fact it is quite the opposite, amongst my generation, almost everybody that I know is divorced. We're talking maybe one or two couples that married in the 60's such as my high school class. And most of them were over within 5 years. It as good times for me, as I had matured, all at once, all the girls that I had wanted to date in high school, that had married their high school sweethearts were once again available. And they all seemed to remarry a second time by the time they reached their 30's, and most that I know have stuck. A few now have great grand children. I don't trust government stats. My state maintains that the divorce rate is about 50 percent. Hogwash. I know for a fact from the source, that it is 78%. One other thing I have recently thought of. My high school class graduated just about the time that LBJ went nuts in Viet Nam. I mean my all the males in my class, the minute they turned 18, had to go take the draft physical. One of the ways at that time to get out of the draft was to be married and have a kid. I know of many who did just that. Everyone that I know who took this route was divorced within a decade.
DorkBreakfast Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 From what I've personally seen, marriages can be successful on the second go. My parents got divorced when I was young, my dad remarried while my mom didn't. My dad got divorced from his 2nd wife and remarried my mom after 10 years. They are still married and much better off than before. Sometimes a swift kick right to the ego is what is needed for two people to finally relate to each other. 1
slyk1970 Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I was my husbands 2nd wife (I was never married before), we were together 16 years, married for 13. He passed away a year and a half ago but I can say without a doubt that our marriage was much healthier than his first which lasted maybe 3-4 years. While we had our ups and downs like any couple if he were still here I believe we would still be married. My parents divorced - dad never remarried - mother did 2 more times both ending in divorce. 1
ASG Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 My mom and step dad are both in their second marriages. They've been married 17 years, together over 20. While it's not yet longer than my step dad's first marriage, I think they will indeed go the distance. 1
WasOtherWoman Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I think sometimes it is the circumstances that come with second marriages that cause them to fail. I married a man with grown children more than ten years ago. I love the kids (and grandkids!!) but our life is much more simple than those who marry and still have children at home. I would not have been up for that challenge. 1
Arieswoman Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I agree WOW, My second husband had never been married and had no children, and I had no children. I most certainly would not have taken on anyone who had kids still at home. I have known second marriages fail because the all kids couldn't get on or one person's kids didn't like the new partner etc etc.
WasOtherWoman Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I agree WOW, My second husband had never been married and had no children, and I had no children. I most certainly would not have taken on anyone who had kids still at home. I have known second marriages fail because the all kids couldn't get on or one person's kids didn't like the new partner etc etc. PLUS.. the main thing people argue about is money, s*x and children. With no kids for us to argue about, and no money issues that just leaves s*x as a potential source of conflict. More than twelve years together things still going fine in that arena .
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