shopaholic99 Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Im having a hard time with no contact, as we all do. He broke up with me a month ago. Told me to move on in the "short term" and told me maybe we can be together in the future. First he said 3 months, then 6, then 1 year, and also said thats a MAYBE. We were fighting and he was stressed out the last few months. We became LD a few months ago. Saw him two weeks ago and we spent time together like everything was normal, NORMAL! You would never know. We even spent the night together, which was probably a bad idea. Then he went back to the same stuff, we cant be together right now. We need space, space is good blah blah blah and that a few weeks apart wont change anything. At the same time, he tells me I can't give him everything he is looking for and we are not a good fit. I think he doesnt know what he wants, but at the same time Ive convinced myself he will never come back! He always responds to my texts and still says he misses me thinks about me, but I should move on and not wait. Seems like he is almost using me as an option so he can come back in the future if he wants. He is coming into town in a few weeks and Im nervous. Im not sure if he will contact me to meet. Im so confused. How do I just stop contacting him! Knowing he has feelings for me still and his word choice makes it s much harder. I need to be stronger! I keep busy, but I have moments of weakness where I feel the urge to contact him. How do you all do it?!
organizedchaos Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Im having a hard time with no contact, as we all do. He broke up with me a month ago. Told me to move on in the "short term" and told me maybe we can be together in the future. First he said 3 months, then 6, then 1 year, and also said thats a MAYBE. We were fighting and he was stressed out the last few months. We became LD a few months ago. Saw him two weeks ago and we spent time together like everything was normal, NORMAL! You would never know. We even spent the night together, which was probably a bad idea. Then he went back to the same stuff, we cant be together right now. We need space, space is good blah blah blah and that a few weeks apart wont change anything. At the same time, he tells me I can't give him everything he is looking for and we are not a good fit. I think he doesnt know what he wants, but at the same time Ive convinced myself he will never come back! He always responds to my texts and still says he misses me thinks about me, but I should move on and not wait. Seems like he is almost using me as an option so he can come back in the future if he wants. He is coming into town in a few weeks and Im nervous. Im not sure if he will contact me to meet. Im so confused. How do I just stop contacting him! Knowing he has feelings for me still and his word choice makes it s much harder. I need to be stronger! I keep busy, but I have moments of weakness where I feel the urge to contact him. How do you all do it?! We rip the bandaid off and go NC. Look, you're basically his booty call right now. He gets the perks of a relationship without the relationship by stringing you along. Telling you just enough to keep you latched on, but then pulling away. If you like being an option, keep it up. If you don't, go NC immediately. Cease all communication. Cut all ties online and offline. Then see how he reacts when he finds out you're not waiting in the wings for him.
Author shopaholic99 Posted December 13, 2013 Author Posted December 13, 2013 Thank you! I am going to try REALLLYYYY HARD this time!
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