Scared and upset...

[Freddy1]

In advance, thank you for your time and advice .

 

I have recently encountered a terrible situation with a girl at university, about a month ago. Last term I met a girl in a nightclub and I invited her back to my house, where we had sex. We talked for ages and it wasn't like a normal one night stand. Anyway I walked her back to campus because she wasn't too sure where she was. I text her that day, and after we were texting everyday over the whole summer. At the start of this term, we met up, fooled around a bit, but didn't have sex and I was fine with that.

 

Anyway, a few days later she text me at 1 in the morning asking to come round, promising it "would be fun". I said sure. She came round, I was sitting on the bed and she came onto me, I started kissing her neck, but she said I was "scaring her". Needless to say, I said that we probably shouldn't have sex because she didn't seem that into it. Anyway, in the morning she goes to the bathroom to freshen up, jumps on top of me, wanting to have sex, but I was having 'wood' problems, because to be honest the whole thing had got a bit weird. She started talking to me like I was an *******, saying that "this was my only chance" etc etc.

 

Anyway, we did oral, to be honest because she made me feel guilty about the whole erection thing. The next day I went to hers to watch a film, she told me she just "wanted to be friends". I said fine but the next day when she text me I just ignored it because to be fair I thought that she was taking me for a bit of a fool. Within a couple of hours of me not replying she starts to freak out, saying I can't cut her out of her life and it really hurts etc. So I replied saying that I didn't want to be just friends and after all the stuff we did it would just be weird. She kept going on about not cutting her out so I said "ok give me a couple of days to think things through". She said "ok but you can't just cut me out". I went to a nightclub that night, she started texting me, asking me to "Come round... we can ****". Lo and behold, I see her basically sitting a few yards away from me. I went over to say hi but she just blew me off and started dancing with some guy right in front of me, continuously looking at me and grinning. I felt jealous, but didn't show it and left the club.

 

Anyway about 30 mins after I left she called me, I ignored it, and then she called again, so I answered. She was asking me to come back into town to see her, like an idiot I said ok. I ordered a cab and whilst waiting she told me that she loved me, which was weird and I ignored it. We get a cab back to hers, talk to her friend in the living room for about an hour, then we go upstairs. I said to her "do you have condoms", she went downstairs to get them, then she put music on and we had sex. We then had sex again in the morning. About an hour after I said that I should go home, I didn't want to outstay my welcome. Se said "no stay", so I stayed until 1, we were cuddling on the sofa and even then when I said I wanted to go she asked me to stay, I said thanks but I need to have a shower etc.

 

Anyway, after I leave she started saying that "it was really bad you had sex with me when I was that drunk"?!?! But she said she "Didn't mind" I mean wtf?!?! The next day she started saying she wasn't happy about it and that I abused her drunken state?! I said you were drunk but not that drunk and we had sex in the morning! She said she was still wasted in the morning, I just told her that she was lying. Anyway we didn't talk for a while but I couldn't let it lie I felt terrible, like some kind of sexual predator.

 

Anyway I eventually had her round at my place to talk this out, she tried to pressure me into saying that what I did was wrong. When I stood my ground, she started crying, saying that she didn't take my feeelings into consideration, that there were no boundaries, that she knew she had me as a friend (and thought she could just keep me hanging around), and that she would never hurt me again. Anyway I said, fine let's be friends. But to be honest the next day I told her that I couldn't forrgive her after what she had done to me, anyway we argued for a while, and eventually she said she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I was angry with her and sent some snotty texts, but two days later I send her a message saying that I wanted NC, but that she was a nice girl and that I hoped she would be happy. The next day she reported me to the university, one of the staff said that she wanted "no contact with me".

 

Anyway I just said fine I didn't want to cause a scene, I wanted it to all go away. But it hasn't, whenever I go out she keeps staring at me, I mean really staring at me, with a weird, sad face. sometimes she'll hug guys and look over at me to see if I'm looking. Once I saw her out and she looked me straight in the eye and started doing this weird, seductive dance in front of me. I've ignored her since she reported me to the uni. Have I done anything wrong? When I had sex with her that night she was all like "oh let's do doggy" and stuff like that?! I mean the way she makes it out you'd think she was passed out or something?! Oh she has slandered me to her friends as well. To be honest I dread to think what she has told them. This whole situation is a nightmare and I haven't spoke to her for 6 weeks but she won't stop staring and being weird when she sees me and it's worrying me because I think that if she hasn't let it go by now she never will, and to be honest I'm living in fear of what she'll do next.

 

Also, she said some weird stuff to me about having an mmf, waking up with a guy she doesn't know and not knowing where she is THREE TIMES!! And not liking it when guys ejaculate on her because it's degrading. I don't know that just sounded really weird to me.

 

Why is she doing this? Am I insane? Have I done anything wrong? I was always nice and patient with her and it feels like she has completely screwed me over for no reason! Sorry some of this is a bit graphic but it's essential context. And it is very long, apologies.

Edited December 13, 2013 by Freddy1

[TylerDurdenn]

Bloody hell mate, she's a looney. I highly recommend ignoring and avoiding her.

[BlametheIrish]

As the poster before me said, that women is some kind of crazy. Stay away from that women and any who remind you of her. You may want to talk to the school anout her and you so they have a file on her when she claims rape on some other innocent guy.

[Freddy1]

Thanks for the advice. Naturally, I am going to ignore her completely but she is obviously making it hard for me. The thing that makes me so angry is how she can accuse me of such a terrible thing, yet continuously try to get my attention, try toprovoke a reaction from me, and kind of causing a commotion in general. Surely if she believes what she said about me, she would not act this way. Has anyone else ever been in a similar situation? Can you relate in any way?