Goodbye Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 (edited) Signed into gmail chat for the first time in months because my phone is broken. Didn't realize exMM could even contact me this way, but he did. Started sending me IM's about how he missed me and thinks of me all the time and wants to send me something for Christmas. I was shocked and simply replied "Are you still married?" To which he launched into his usual crap answer that "Well, we live under the same roof but aren't together." I signed out and blocked him. What an A$$. Really makes me want to contact his wife and I hope this doesn't set me back because I was looking forward to celebrating Christmas ALONE without that constant nagging feeling of missing/wanting/hating/resenting the exMM. Three months of complete NC was quite healing. Edited December 13, 2013 by Goodbye 5
WakingUp Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Firstly, well done for not being dragged in by his feeble attempt. Secondly, I am so sorry he has done this. You have come so far, don't let this set you back. Goodbye we were in a similar place at a similar time, and put simply, I admire your strength and determination in getting to where you are. There will be bumps in the road from time to time, just don't let them derail you. He is fishing, and will quite possibly try again, but stay resolute because you will lose all that progress you made. Don't let him spoil your Christmas, don't let him spoil one more minute of your life!
SarahJames Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Congratulations on having the strength not to respond beyond that! It takes a lot, and it is the best thing you could have done! Keep yourself busy, remember you dersve so much more, and enjoy the holidays it gets better with time
blue963 Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Awesome.....you dont need that miserable attempt. Keep going in the right direction. 1
lilmisscantbewrong Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 How was he able to contact you that way? Was that a way you communicated before? Were the old messages or fairly new. How bizarre - I can't even imagine what that would be like NOW after all of this time. I WOULD contact his wife.
Author Goodbye Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 How was he able to contact you that way? Was that a way you communicated before? Were the old messages or fairly new. How bizarre - I can't even imagine what that would be like NOW after all of this time. I WOULD contact his wife. No, never communicated that way before. We both have gmail accounts and I was signed into the chat to talk to my father and he started sending me messages. The messages were new today.
Author Goodbye Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 Don't bother, I did twice they always shoot the messenger and you get the crazy stalker sticker. Yes, I don't think I will bother. She allegedly knows and doesn't care...wants to be married, end of story. She can have him.
elbe Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 What kind of jerk turns his back on his wife to Gmail chat some long lost fling.
Author Goodbye Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 I call BS on her knowing, or at least not anymore than the tip of the iceburg. Good for you! Now block his arse! Yes, my gut tells me he gave her the wholesome version. I doubt she knows much of what he has said and promised, but she must know he was missing for a good chunk of last year...and well, she is highly motivated to stay married at all costs...I do believe that. So, she may as well be kept in the dark. It will be a happier place. I've blocked him as much as I can with today's technology. More importantly, he is blocked from my heart.
Author Goodbye Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 What kind of jerk turns his back on his wife to Gmail chat some long lost fling. Wouldn't call it a fling. But yes, he is a jerk. I think that is fairly clear.
lilmisscantbewrong Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 I disagree - I think she should know he is contacting you and what he is saying. If you don't tell her, I would keep the messages in a file somewhere just in case you need them later. What a douche
whichwayisup Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Signed into gmail chat for the first time in months because my phone is broken. Didn't realize exMM could even contact me this way, but he did. Started sending me IM's about how he missed me and thinks of me all the time and wants to send me something for Christmas. I was shocked and simply replied "Are you still married?" To which he launched into his usual crap answer that "Well, we live under the same roof but aren't together." I signed out and blocked him. What an A$$. Really makes me want to contact his wife and I hope this doesn't set me back because I was looking forward to celebrating Christmas ALONE without that constant nagging feeling of missing/wanting/hating/resenting the exMM. Three months of complete NC was quite healing. It'll only set you back if you let it set you back. 3 months healing? You're so far along! Remember, nothing has changed on his end and he is still married, so there's absolutely no hope there. Let go and do your best not to think of him at all. He isn't worthy of ANY thoughts or ANY tears! Really, go on with your life as you've been for the past 3 months.. You're gonna be fine! PS Don't contact his wife, just isn't worth it. You've blocked him. Oh and you should create a new google email address so he won't try to contact you through another email address on that account.
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