TylerDurdenn Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 I don't have a lot of time so bullet points! Colleague 10 years older than me Extremely beautiful with an amazing body Christmas party TONIGHT, she has asked to stay round my house Constantly flirting with me at work Told colleagues that she doesn't want me to be with any other girl at the party as "he's mine" I know this may seem really obvious but I don't know, maybe it's too obvious? We get on stupidly well and are always making each other laugh, so that's why I question if this is just banter? I'm not looking too much into this as she's a very friendly/bubbly person but what do you think? 1
d0nnivain Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 I think at the very least she enjoys flirting with you. Make a move if you are clear about all the downsides of an office romance.
Author TylerDurdenn Posted December 13, 2013 Author Posted December 13, 2013 I think at the very least she enjoys flirting with you. Make a move if you are clear about all the downsides of an office romance. I will not be making a move, and yeah I doubt it would be worth the complications
d0nnivain Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Then keep on flirting & don't worry about it. Have fun at your party.
carhill Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 She sounds married. Talk doesn't always equate to feeling. IME, rarely. Most of the time it is, or should be, a fun mind-fµck, as long as both people are on the same page. Married women are expert at this, especially the ones who don't wear wedding rings. BTDT many times. I'll second the advice to go to the party and have fun. Flirt with other ladies there. Get around. See what happens. Good luck.
Author TylerDurdenn Posted December 15, 2013 Author Posted December 15, 2013 Plenty of touching n hugging etc and told me if she wasn't with her boyfriend she'd want me, didn't stay round. Fair enough
PegNosePete Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 I will not be making a move So why are you posting? What is your question?
jonny walker Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Keep flirting her she enjoys flirting wid u
CrystalCastles Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Plenty of touching n hugging etc and told me if she wasn't with her boyfriend she'd want me, didn't stay round. Fair enough Smells like skank to me... I see a red flag.
Author TylerDurdenn Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 She asked me out to dinner this weekend!?! Yes I'm going, she is a lot of fun. But still WTF!?
tom670 Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 She asked me out to dinner this weekend!?! Yes I'm going, she is a lot of fun. But still WTF!? You said she has a boyfriend right? Tread lightly.
beyondcrushed Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Oh my. My office romance broke up with me 2 months ago. We were together and serious for 8 months. We were flirting in the office for a year before that. Now its absolutely wretched working with him. I have to endure seeing and hearing him every...single...day...at work. Ugh! And he treats me like any other colleague he has zero interest in. All communication is work related with absolutely no personal friendly chit chat. A drastic change from being his love interest. Plus, now I have to endure him making a play for his 25 year old employee (I don't report to him. I report to the director of our branch who is his boss too. He's a supervisor). Its excruiating watching and listening to him flirt, laugh and spend soooo much ***** time in her office. Making the same moves on her as he made on me. Soooo, beware. I recommend staying away and not going there at all. Good luck!
Author TylerDurdenn Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 I've taken a step back, I don't understand her intentions and it's all a bit weird. Thanks for the advise as usual guys.
carhill Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 She asked me out to dinner this weekend!?! Yes I'm going, she is a lot of fun. But still WTF!? While it appears you've already made a decision on this, a response I came to practice and polish in circumstances like these is: 'That sounds wonderful. I look forward to meeting your boyfriend/husband. I'm sure we'll have a great time. Should I bring a date?' Then, a nice smile, a wink and move on. That's what banter is all about, and this kind is perfectly appropriate to say right in front of the person's partner, so no cheating is involved, hence healthy. People can read into it what they wish. Me, I'm just having fun, thanks to the lessons of many MW's.
Author TylerDurdenn Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 While it appears you've already made a decision on this, a response I came to practice and polish in circumstances like these is: 'That sounds wonderful. I look forward to meeting your boyfriend/husband. I'm sure we'll have a great time. Should I bring a date?' Then, a nice smile, a wink and move on. That's what banter is all about, and this kind is perfectly appropriate to say right in front of the person's partner, so no cheating is involved, hence healthy. People can read into it what they wish. Me, I'm just having fun, thanks to the lessons of many MW's. I'm not going, she creeped me out by complimenting me every time I walked past her. I'm going to avoid her from now on.
Leigh 87 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 It sounds like a troll.. However, she is has a boyfriend. She's a skank for flirting with you. She is being totally inappropriate.
carhill Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 That's interesting, the suggestion that she's trolling him for a reaction. Good stuff. I'll remember that for the next time. Could have some fun with that. OP, I get that you feel creeped out but, man, it's big world with all sorts of people in it. Some folks like to jerk your feelings around just to amuse themselves. Get down on your knees and thank the deity of your choice that you're not them. Smile, learn to do some jerk-around of your own with those who bring it to your doorstep, and enjoy life. It's brief. 1
Author TylerDurdenn Posted December 19, 2013 Author Posted December 19, 2013 Work is increbily awkward now. Arrrghhh I regret Saturday.
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