Scott S Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 BTW, check your e-mail. That should cheer you up a little, anyway!
Author Merin Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by Scott S You play well with others! You don’t run with scissors, though, do you? So running with Scissor's ISN'T a good thing LOL! Yeah... I actually like to call my Dad and tell him "Hey Dad, I'm running through the house with scissor's AND I'm drinking the milk right out of the container!" Thank you for your kind words my friend... you know it's funny, because I do make friends easily but I just don't seem to make a good "girlfriend" honestly, I don't know why... I know he had a lot to deal with early on... but I did too. He now has responsibility... and again... I do too. Probably even more so than he because my little people's dad isn't so much about helping out or spending a lot of time... so yeah. I think this is where I trip up... I've been through a lot myself... and yeah I have some baggage but I'm stronger and more aware of what my problems are AND I'm willing to find resolve... so in my mind I can't see where the difference is... well except I guess it's what I'm willing to do... not what he is. He isn't a bad person or anything... and he can really be good to me... so he's got that going on for him... BUT I can't take the continual hot and cold going on 24-7... it reminds me to much of my last f**ked up deal-e-o and that one just about killed me...
soccorsilly Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 Soccor is waving the white flag! Giving up. Being the true Frenchman that he is! I will simply sit back and watch this thread.
Author Merin Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by soccorsilly Soccor is waving the white flag! Giving up. Being the true Frenchman that he is! I will simply sit back and watch this thread. :Merin is WEARING the white flag and is kind of pissed about it, it's pretty damn cold out: I am listening Soccor, I am... I haven't called him or contacted him and I haven't any plans too... While I do know and understand that he's got his issues... I also know and understand I've got mine. As much as I would like to say that nothing is my fault ever... this is one of my MANY issues... I'm my own worst critic.. no one could be harder on me than I am myself... BUT I am listening sweetie... swear I am.
Scott S Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by Merin So running with Scissor's ISN'T a good thing LOL! Yeah... I actually like to call my Dad and tell him "Hey Dad, I'm running through the house with scissor's AND I'm drinking the milk right out of the container!" Thank you for your kind words my friend... you know it's funny, because I do make friends easily but I just don't seem to make a good "girlfriend" honestly, I don't know why... I know he had a lot to deal with early on... but I did too. He now has responsibility... and again... I do too. Probably even more so than he because my little people's dad isn't so much about helping out or spending a lot of time... so yeah. I think this is where I trip up... I've been through a lot myself... and yeah I have some baggage but I'm stronger and more aware of what my problems are AND I'm willing to find resolve... so in my mind I can't see where the difference is... well except I guess it's what I'm willing to do... not what he is. He isn't a bad person or anything... and he can really be good to me... so he's got that going on for him... BUT I can't take the continual hot and cold going on 24-7... it reminds me to much of my last f**ked up deal-e-o and that one just about killed me... Dad: Oh, Yeah? Well, I'm leaving dirty underwear on the floor. And I'll tell you something else, I'm leaving the toilet seat up! How do ya like them apples?! Perhaps you've been taking the wrong approach. To be a good girlfriend or a good boyfriend, one first must be a good friend. So you do have it in you. The right man will see what a wonderful lady you are, & will want to have a love relationship with you. He will honor & cherish you, & treat you like the dear lady that you are. That may be Josh, or it may be someone else. I don't mean to imply that he's a bad person. I'm sorry to hear that he's had some bad things happen to him. But the fact is that's how life is sometimes. We've all had bad breaks. The mature adults "suck it up." Those less mature whine & overindulge in self-pity. I'm sorry, I don't mean to sound condescending. I know you like him, & that you see a lot of likeable things in him. I just hate to see you so confused & hurting. But one way or another it will be OK sooner or later.
Author Merin Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by Scott S Dad: Oh, Yeah? Well, I'm leaving dirty underwear on the floor. And I'll tell you something else, I'm leaving the toilet seat up! How do ya like them apples?! Oh no he wouldn't! LOL My Mom would whip his a**! Heres the thing Scott... he likes spending time with me and said so... but heres the kicker... he also said it was freaking him out that he liked spending time with me and would rather spend his time with me then with his dude friends... I told him the other night I got his back like I WOULD any OTHER FRIEND... he looked at me and said "so what are you saying? I don't want to be just your friend" Mixxxxxx em up... damn messages. He just text me a few minutes ago... :Merin was very good and didn't message him first: The up's and down's... the high's the low's...
Author Merin Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by soccorsilly I loves ya Soccor
Barby Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 Merin....Girl ..... I'm so sorry, what's up with this "hot & cold" business?!! I do have a question for ya....when you two are conversating.. Asked him if he was okay... he said "Why wouldn't I be" um.. okay... small talk... then he said well I just called to say hi.. I'm going to start my laundry. I'm like Okay, good to go... Then he says "I'll talk to you tomorrow... well, I'll see what I've got going on.. maybe I'll talk to you tomorrow." I said Okay.. he says "I'm not mad or anything" I said Okay... he asks again if I'm okay... I said yeah I'm okay. Then he says well I don't want to use up all my minutes on my cell phone (he had just added me on his cell phone plan for tmobile to tmobile so we could call for free and it doesn't take effect until next month) I said Okay... It sounds to me that you may be being "short" with him, maybe with your one or two word answers, maybe you're coming across as annoyed?! Obviously I have NO idea but from your post it comes across that way a little bit. But if not then he's a fool.... I think that in many ways he's a good guy, maybe just not ready to "grow up" yet? If he had this problem with his wife...(not being there for her, always being away or out with his "boys") maybe he's still not ready to tone that down?!! I know you don't expect him to be with you all the time or call you 24/7 but it would be nice if he would show he's interested by making the effort to call/come over more (but some people are just morons and just don't "get it"). I'm sorry girl, keep your chin up and keep us posted! ((((Hugs))))
Scott S Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Heres the thing Scott... he likes spending time with me and said so... but heres the kicker... he also said it was freaking him out that he liked spending time with me and would rather spend his time with me then with his dude friends... I told him the other night I got his back like I WOULD any OTHER FRIEND... he looked at me and said "so what are you saying? I don't want to be just your friend" Mixxxxxx em up... damn messages. He IS mixed up. He's concerned about how he wants to spend more time with you? Are his male friends that hot looking? When Gina & I started dating, I sort of dropped off the radar, so to speak, & my family & friends wondered whether I had been abducted by rectal-probing space aliens. He does seem quite sensitive. Most men don't read things into what you tell them, or at least not to the extent he does.
Author Merin Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by Barby Merin....Girl ..... I'm so sorry, what's up with this "hot & cold" business?!! I do have a question for ya....when you two are conversating.. It sounds to me that you may be being "short" with him, maybe with your one or two word answers, maybe you're coming across as annoyed?! Obviously I have NO idea but from your post it comes across that way a little bit. But if not then he's a fool.... I think that in many ways he's a good guy, maybe just not ready to "grow up" yet? If he had this problem with his wife...(not being there for her, always being away or out with his "boys") maybe he's still not ready to tone that down?!! I know you don't expect him to be with you all the time or call you 24/7 but it would be nice if he would show he's interested by making the effort to call/come over more (but some people are just morons and just don't "get it"). I'm sorry girl, keep your chin up and keep us posted! ((((Hugs)))) Thank you sweetie... You could be right that maybe it was me and he percieved it as being annoyed.. I was feeling more cautious... but who knows how he took that... He has contacted me today.. actually just a few minutes ago.. so wow look at that, who knew? God knows NOT ME! Relationships... are hard.
Author Merin Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by Scott S He IS mixed up. He's concerned about how he wants to spend more time with you? Are his male friends that hot looking? When Gina & I started dating, I sort of dropped off the radar, so to speak, & my family & friends wondered whether I had been abducted by rectal-probing space aliens. He does seem quite sensitive. Most men don't read things into what you tell them, or at least not to the extent he does. I've only met a couple of them... but I do know that it was a big deal for him to introduce me to his friends.. and I remember him telling them several times on the phone BEFORE we went over to his boys house... for him (his friend) to be nice... which all of his friends were very nice to me and I liked them. HOWEVER I also know that he had mentioned that a few of his buddies had called him and wondered what had happend to him... where he had gone... and I think that bothered him. I think he was more suprised that he was wanting to spend his time with me over his friends.. and it whacked him out... interesting though too... because in his mind he feels he's overcompensated for me in spending time with me so as to not take me for granted.. and although I didn't feel taken for granted, I guess I also didn't see the over compensation he felt he was doing... said he needed to find a balance... SOCCOR... I'm still listening... but yeah... I'm a girl here LOL and ya know I look at everything
Barby Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 Hahaha! So see when you said............. So in short I get from it this... I called to say hi because I thought you would be pissed if I didn't... you didn't call me or text me.. so I'm wondering if you're okay or mad... so you say you're not... I think you're full of **** but really I don't care... I won't be calling you tomorrow.. so don't wonder IF I will, just know I won't... AND I would appreciate it if you didn't call me either because I don't want to waste my minutes on your lame ass... so yeah. Have a good nite and f**k you. You were over-analyzing things and looking at them in such a negative light! Girl you gotta quit that! I'm not saying it was "you" or "your fault" but maybe he took it the wrong way?!
Author Merin Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by Barby Hahaha! So see when you said............. You were over-analyzing things and looking at them in such a negative light! Girl you gotta quit that! I'm not saying it was "you" or "your fault" but maybe he took it the wrong way?! LOL Actually I think he was trying to give me a message of sorts... probably not as bad as I took it... but yeah. I dunno... I think that he "tests" me a lot and up until yesterday I was knocking myself out to keep in touch with him.. let him know I cared.. blah blah... BUT all my peeps here and ya know my Dad LOL kept telling me to let things ride... give him is space and let him figure things out IF he wants to call... so I did and I think it suprised him... higgghhsssss.... loooowwwwsssssss "Merin now has the song because I got high by Afroman stuck in her head:
Barby Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 Merin now has the song because I got high by Afroman stuck in her head: Love that song! hahahaha! Yes I agree that letting it "ride" worked, even though I'm sure it's hard, I guess maybe letting him feel like he's doing the "pursuing" makes him feel more in control? More macho and more manly?!
Stone Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 I didn't read the whole thread because I am in and out... But all I can say is skrew him and go get your self a RICH suggar daddy!!
Author Merin Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by Barby Love that song! hahahaha! Yes I agree that letting it "ride" worked, even though I'm sure it's hard, I guess maybe letting him feel like he's doing the "pursuing" makes him feel more in control? More macho and more manly?! I love that song too! Now I really want to hear it... good God i'm sitting here at work in my little office singing because I got high in a freakin Doc's office! He is most definately one of those "guys" you know? NOT about "girly crap" at all... Hmmm... we'll see... :Merin sings... I was gonna go to work, but then I got High:
Author Merin Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by Stone I didn't read the whole thread because I am in and out... But all I can say is skrew him and go get your self a RICH suggar daddy!! :Merin is making Tanbark her suga daddy: He isn't rich (um.. I don't think?) BUT... For Godsake, he's down for Vegas, Dig's Karaoke, has protested the Vtines day crap, and gets my jokes! THANKS YOU GUYS!
tanbark813 Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by Merin :Merin is making Tanbark her suga daddy: He isn't rich (um.. I don't think?) BUT... For Godsake, he's down for Vegas, Dig's Karaoke, has protested the Vtines day crap, and gets my jokes! THANKS YOU GUYS! Come to daddy, suga'britches. I'm not rich by any means, but my software engineering job pays enough for trips to Vegas. Fancy a stay at the Paris Hotel & Casino?
Stone Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 WOO!! It's getting hot in here!! Merin maby you will be his Lady Luck in VEGAs THEN he'll be RICH HAHAHAH
Author Merin Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by tanbark813 Come to daddy, suga'britches. I'm not rich by any means, but my software engineering job pays enough for trips to Vegas. Fancy a stay at the Paris Hotel & Casino? Pssshhhhh... You know I'm down! VEGAS BABY!
tanbark813 Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Pssshhhhh... You know I'm down! VEGAS BABY! Vegas, baby, VEGAS!!! Who's the big winner tonight? Merin's the big winner! That's right! Merin wins!!! (btw, digging the new icon)
Author Merin Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by tanbark813 Vegas, baby, VEGAS!!! Who's the big winner tonight? Merin's the big winner! That's right! Merin wins!!! (btw, digging the new icon) Yay! Go Merin Go Merin!! Damn! we are soooooo playing the price is right game thingy in Vegas! LOL Glad ya like the New Icon Baby might got back.. but Merin got>> Accckkkkk! I'm out of control now!
Author Merin Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by soccorsilly sniffle sniffle sob sob
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